Uni drop off

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How long did you spend with your DC when dropping them off ?
My DD goes next wknd and I have a wedding on the same day so trying to squeeze it all in

Thanks

We had a half an hour drop off as that's all we were allocated then we could park elsewhere but ds was ready for us to go.

Oh not long at all then!!

Less than 1 hour.

I was functioning three hours at least seems i will have plenty of time. We get a 20 minute slot to unload then I need to move the car. I think I assumed she want me to help sort room etc

We stayed to help sort out room & then went off for lunch. Then there were talks laid on for parents & then left. Probably couple of hours. But we had a fairly long drive there & back so needed a bit of a break.

I usually take oldest out for a meal after we've unloaded - it's a 2hr journey so I need a break. If it's light we often go for a walk for an hour too. If DS has something to get to then I'll do that on my own though. I don't think most parents hang around that long, but DS is very food - oriented!
Am dropping 2nd sprog off at uni in a week or so. That one will be a 4hr drive. He's made it very clear that he'll want to get on with meeting other freshers straight away and won't want maternal support . I'll be exploring the university town on my own!
Think it really depends on the kid.

As long as it took to unload the car with both of mine. They made it clear that they didn’t want me cramping their style

An hour max! Unload, nose around their room/house/halls. Make bed up, unpack toothbrush/toothpaste, phone charger. Hug, cry, issue instructions to enjoy/phone regularly/not get too drunk/not to miss lectures, leave.

Ok seems i may be redundant then.

First DC to go must try not to cry!!
Thanks all ha e reassured me I will make the wedding too

I’m tomorrow we have a 20 min slot. She hasn’t even packed her clothes etc yet! I’m thinking we will use the 20 mins to get everything in her room and then go off do a food shop, have lunch the. come back and organise and then leave. She did an apprenticeship last year and moved away from home I cried for 3 weeks after she left. I’m hoping it doesn’t hit me like a ton of bricks tomorrow! X

Oh god 3 weeks!! I am close to crying thinking about it haha

We were less than an hour I reckon. Quickly unloaded car after we had (luckily!) found a space to park. Room was lovely but not huge, so she really needed us out of the way so that she could get sorted. She was also ushering us out as she wanted to contact all the people she'd been talking to on her freshers whatsapp group! Perfect for her, and I was really happy (honest - just hayfever on the way home )

About 1.5 hours. DD was stressed about not being able to log onto the university Wi-Fi. Once that was sorted and we helped her put stuff in kitchen cupboards she ushered us out of her room.

DC1 was keen to usher us out promptly. We had 15 mins to unload from allocated parking then had to move the car further away.

Please DON'T plan to do a food shop after drop off. Every family thinks the same, so supermarkets near halls are all heaving! The kitchen cupboard will be tiny amyway. Basics for the first couple of days is all they nees. Going to find the supermarket is a good thing to do with new flat mates.

We organised a Sainsburys delivery, which, with hindsight, was rather optimistic as the traffic was so bad. However, the driver managed to pull up in the road outside the halls in the end.

We were a 2.5 to 3 hour drive away so booked to stay overnight when dropping off DS2. We got there about lunchtime, got him unpacked and room set up and then took him for shopping. We asked if he wanted dinner with us and he did, so we took him for dinner and then he went off to do things with his flatmates. Saw him for about 15 minutes in the morning before we headed home.

Ask the student when s/he wants you to go .

One of mine was done to be left as soon as dropped and keen to get on with sorting the room and exploring the area. The other I stayed with; went for coffee back to sort room and then dinner that night. It depends on the student, your relationship with them and whether or not they will feel dumped if you just go because you have something else on that day.

I spent about 21/2 hours with DS. We unpacked the car and sorted his room out. Then went to Tesco to do a food shop. By the time we'd unpacked it, other students were sorting in the communal area chatting, so it felt like the right time to go and leave him get on with it.

Take some tissues for the journey home!

Tissues not necessarily needed....it's a happy occasion.
Your child has done well.
Tissues perhaps if s/he had no plans or ambitions.

Will take food shopping with us then. Aiming to arrive at 9am and I ha e to leave 12 latest so should be ok I think. A girl she has got friendly with on the group chat arrives at 12 so she is planning to give her a hand moving in then.
Just got to get her to sort clothes now!!!

About 60 minutes may be a bit more because there was a queuing system for cars, parents went into a hall, a guide showed the student the room, then we unpacked the car and the number of trips from car to room - up stairs - was quite a bit. I didn't take either twin out for a meal after or hang around and chat and I am sure they wanted me gone anyway in year 1.

we stayed a couple of hours. unloaded, went food shopping, pub lunch then quick look about.

We stayed about an hour and half to unpack, then went out to lunch (& get more shopping ) and then left him. We did stay overnight in the same city and the whole of the next day, we wanted to explore the city and met up with a friend, we told DS to get in touch if he wanted to meet us for lunch or dinner - he didn’t .

We must be the exception as it took ages for DS to get his room key and instructions, then to battle with the WiFi- we were there several hours.