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I feel so upset now that I am back at university...advice please?

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HeadOverHeels1 · 23/09/2018 18:53

Title says it all really. I am just so upset to be back at university - I keep on bursting into tears. For context, I didn't have a very good first year, I spent all my time counting down the days until trips home. I was reluctant to come back, but I feel like I must stay - university seems my only option. I have no idea of what I want to do in the future, and I know my parents will not let me drop out. I remain disinterested in my course, despite doing alright in assessed essays etc.
All summer, I have been dreading coming back, and I can't believe that the time came around so quickly to return. I honestly feel that the next time I will be happy will be the Christmas break. I'm just wishing time away, which I know is bad in itself and unhealthy.

I wondered if anyone has been in a situation with their own sons and daughters. Do you have any advice on how I can be content with my time at university? I would ask my own Mum, but I'm trying to only send short replies to the messages asking me if I am OK, as I think talking to my family properly will just make me miss them even more. I came with a positive mindset on getting through it, telling myself it's only another two years, and that it will go quickly..however, this positive facade has crumbled the minute I've started. I've only been here three days, and I want to go home already.

OP posts:
Seaweed42 · 11/10/2018 17:42

Hi, did you say you had requested a referral to student counselling? If so, that might really help manage things as you will have someone to talk to each week. It's a tough burden to manage on your own. Also don't forget places like the Samaritans you can ring for a chat any time if you are particularly low at any time. You don't have to be 'in a bad way' to call, they help anyone in any situation to talk through things. Best of luck with it.

5LeafClover · 15/10/2018 12:01

Would your University support a sandwich year placement? Some will for all courses, not just vocational ones. A year out might shake things up for you... give you a goal to work towards, different course mates when you get back, as well as widening your employment prospects. Careers office should have some information.

CupMug · 15/10/2018 19:17

Sorry you are finding things tough going. Have you covered all the basics? Sleep, diet, exercise etc? Lack of sleep is a massive factor for some people.

That’s a shame that your supervisor was unhelpful. I’m curious what type of uni you are at? Some Unis seem to be more supportive than others.

Miladymilord · 15/10/2018 19:21

Bless you, I can imagine my dd feeling the same. I would definitely look into a uni nearer home x

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