Dd 19 has uni as her firm, which she got accepted to, but feels that she is going to struggle with staying away from home, making friends, the social side of uni ie the drinking (she doesn’t drink and hated clubbing due to her anxiety) and managing the work on her own. We are fortunate enough that we can pay for her fees, so she won’t have the stress of being broke or in debt. She gets stressed easily and has anxiety attacks frequently, I just know if she goes to uni she’ll be crying down the phone to me each night, begging for us to collect her.
Her college offers the same type of course but as a hnc and hnd. If she goes there she will be with her friends, have the support of her lectures that have known her for three years, and get to stay at home. This is a one evening and one day course a week, so she can work full time if she really wanted, and get experience in the trade. It’s only for two years, and then at the end of the two years you are eligible to have a top up year at uni that is essentially doing the last year of the degree and getting the degree at the end of it. I think she should do this as it’s more suited for her. But she’s worried that not going to uni will look bad on her cv, and will regret not going.
The industry she wants to go in isn’t an industry where you need a degree, in fact I’d say majority of people in the industry don’t have a degree. She’s been put into adjustment on ucas and should really make her decision ASAP! I honestly don’t know what to suggest to her anymore as she has an argument for each pro and cons to each one for both the uni and college.