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Withdrawing uni place

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studentdilemma · 15/09/2017 23:38

Hi all,

Following on from recent thread, my DD with mental health problems has decided to take a gap year. HOWEVER, this is the tricky bit, she has already accepted a university place and is due to start in two weeks!

She doesn't want to go there, full stop. Only chose that university as her tutors at college persuaded her to go local... She wants to completely withdraw the application.

She's much better now but needs a year out to just reset and get back on her feet.

DD will email university... but can anyone help with phrasing?? What should she put? Has anyone done something similar?

Reasons are:

  • housing situation may change in the next few months (another issue entirely, she's commuting... may not be possible.)
  • wants to live on campus
  • is not currently in the right place to attend university and needs a break for MH issues

Also want to make it clear that she wants to withdraw application, not defer... she doesn't like the university. Sad

DD is perfectly capable of sorting it out herself but she's sending the email to admissions on Monday so has given me permission to see if anyone has any advice. Tricky situation... but better than her being miserable and missing out.

Also thanks to everyone else who replied to me last thread. Smile

And as not to drip feed, she can't move out this year due to only just recovering from mental health issues, she's been advised by doctors to stay home one more year. Currently, if she moves out I don't think she'd manage at all, she's still in the early days of being 'better.' Then she got miserable about not being allowed to move out, missing out on uni life, until she ultimately decided she doesn't want to go at all this year. I know she's an adult but she is/was mentally ill and it's not just me being a worried mother, her mental health team were also extremely concerned when she wanted to move out this September.

Thank you.

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studentdilemma · 15/09/2017 23:45

Also wanted to add I am not taking over the situation... I offered to post here to get some advice and see if other peoples children have done similar and DD agreed. DD will obviously be dealing with everything, the email to admissions, finance, etc... I am not trying to deal with it for her. Grin

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NewIdeasToday · 16/09/2017 00:03

This will be no problem at all. Lots of students withdraw for personal reasons. She just needs to write and explain that she's having a rethink and wants to withdraw. I'm

EduCated · 16/09/2017 06:39

Yes, don't overthink the message - students withdraw for all sorts of reasons at all sorts of times.

I read your other thread and am glad DD has worked out what to do, sounds like the best option, and she's lucky to have you supporting her Smile

IfyouseeRitaMoreno · 16/09/2017 06:50

Students withdraw all the time. It's no biggie. I wouldn't even mention MH problems but create an official reason that she can use in the future if anyone should ask.

It's best for her to go somewhere she really wants to go.

mummy2b17 · 16/09/2017 07:13

No big deal at all. I work in a Uni and we get plenty of withdrawal requests. Don't even have to say why, just that you are certain you wish to withdraw

fannydaggerz · 16/09/2017 09:12

This isn't a problem at all. Lots of people don't start on the course they have been accepted on to.

Writing something like

Dear XXXX

I will not be taking the place on XXX course, please remove me from the register.

Regards
XXXX

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