University enrolment

[kezzah69]

So, my daughter did a Foundation Law course last year to start her off on a Law degree this year. She has messed about all summer and only now has found out that the reason she hasn't received her enrolment email is because she is down as not returning! Cue panic mode!
Apparently one module was failed, she would have been given chance to resit/resubmit the module in August but she missed that because she lost her phone, couldn't access email account and had to start a new email. We thought she had informed everyone but apparently MMU were mused!
I have been advised that she needs to appeal, the board sits next week so we are doing the appeal form now.
I just wish I knew how likely they were to let her return.
She also wants to ask if maybe she could change courses now? Sometimes kids are such a worry. She should have been moving on Thursday, back to Manchester!
Does anyone have any advice?

I am assuming that she hasn't bothered to full out her student finance applications either so how will she fund next year's partying and living away from home?

If she didn't have the grades to get straight onto a law course it is unlikely she'll do well even if she gets on to the degree course especially as she has failed part of the foundation course too.

I don't mean to sound (too) harsh but she needs to face facts.

What were her A level grades initially and is there something else still available in clearing that she could do with those grades assuming she gets her arse in gear, onto a course and finance sorted by next week!!

She has sorted accommodation, all be it with my help, I paid deposits etc and am guarantor. Student finance was applied for and is waiting registration onto a course. She wanted to go back to Manchester on Thursday to see her friends and take part in some freshers activities!! I can't understand why, if what everyone else says is right (and I have no reason not to) she didn't check her registration status before all this! She was hounding me for weeks to sort out my support for her application for finance! I didn't realise she had results coming, naive maybe, but I and no other member of my family attended uni so was unaware of the system.
Her a level grades were OK, good enough to get her into Manchester met to study law but only if she took the foundation year first. We also have to bear in mind that she is older than the others. When she first left secondary school she went to college to study music, did one year of a 2 year course and decided 6th form and studying law was what she wanted. So 2 years of that, then a foundation year, she is 22 in December and I don't know what the hell to do with her anymore!

Don't do anything. You don't need to know what to do. Leave it to her. She's 22!

You're babying her stop doing anything for her! I can't believe she let you pay a deposit without even knowing if she had passed her exams.

She doesn't want a degree she wants to party sorry, tell her to grow up.

She doesn't want a degree she wants to party sorry, tell her to grow up.

In a nutshell. Just stop enabling it. I get the impression, please correct me if I'm wrong, that she wants to go back to uni purely for the social aspects and isn't actually gutted about failing her foundation year for the academic implications.

She's a grown up. Let her run with her mistakes and fight your urge to correct them when she fails to do that herself. This is how we learn.

You realise you are probably now liable to pay her rent until next Summer?

Her brother says I should tell her to sort herself out and leave her to it.

He is right about that. She is an adult, time to treat her like one.

Well, the university have been more helpful than I feel she maybe deserved. They pointed out she had no grounds for appeal, being stupid does not count. So she spoke to someone in clearing and there is a place on a course she is really interested in, she has submitted an application and is waiting for an email to tell her whether or not she has been accepted. We have had a long heart to heart where I have pointed out that she needs to sort all this herself, I will be her guarantor on the house because eo have already signed for that, if she doesn't get into uni she eis taking a year out, getting a job and living in the house anyway. But there will be no more financial assistance from me.
I have left it all to her now. The ball is in her court. Thanks one and all for your advice, kind words, tough love etc. It is greatly appreciated

Well done, @kezzah69 It can't have been easy. Good luck to you both!

Thanks GiantSteps, it wasn't easy, I have been garb to soft for far too long but she realised that she was in the wrong, she sorted this out herself, that's all I could ask for. Thanks again