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How often do you see your student every term?

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FleaRiddenScruffBag · 27/08/2017 16:21

My student is going to university about 2 hours away with good transport. How often do you see yours, and where, or is it strictly Christmas and Easter?

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LottieDoubtie · 28/08/2017 10:04

When I was a student I went home once each sememester as well as Christmas. Although I worked away Easter and summer (prob did have a few days each side of work at home though). That was about 'average' at the time.

I have a young relative who comes home most weekend mainly to see her BF

I think it's a very individual thing tbh and there is no right or wrong.

Squirrills · 28/08/2017 12:59

A lot depends on how far away they are and whether there is a BF/GF on the scene. Also how happy and settled they are.
I always know when they are having a good time because contact dries up. If they are down, stressed or unwell the texts and Skypes increase noticeably.
DS2 went to uni last year and came home once each term as well as holidays. We also visited on his birthday to take him out.
DS1 had a GF near home and came home a lot more in spite of being further away.

differenteverytime · 28/08/2017 13:06

Mine is going over the water (N.I. to Scotland) and plans to come over once during each term as well as the usual holidays. How long she keeps this up probably depends on how long she keeps the boyfriend she's leaving over here.

Allthebestnamesareused · 28/08/2017 13:08

Christmas and Easter only although we popped in on the way back from Scotland one Sunday to take him to lunch as w were going practically past the door on a 400 mile trip.

Number 2 DS is a flight away in Belfast so probably might not even get to visit except hopefully for graduation!

scaryteacher · 28/08/2017 14:14

We are in a different country to ds, so if we are in UK, we'll pop in, if convenient for him. This year he wasn't coming home for Easter as he was writing his dissy, so we went over for Mothering Sunday weekend, saw him, and some other family at the same time. I also sorted out his graduation suit, shirt and ties at the same time, as there wasn't going to be another opportunity.

Crispsheets · 28/08/2017 14:18

D's is an hour and a half away by car..she usually pops home once a term or I go down for an afternoon and lunch.
Ds will only be 30 mins away by train until I move 250 miles away next year

TheFairyCaravan · 28/08/2017 14:22

Hardly ever, but he's a student nurse so has fewer holidays and has a job too.

When he first went we thought he'd be home all the time but it hasn't been that way at all. He's just going into his 3rd year now so he'll be even busier.

This past year has been a bit of a write off for us all, tbh. I've not been well so we haven't been able to go over to see him as often as we'd have liked.

boys3 · 28/08/2017 14:53

DS1 heading into 3rd year, about 90 minutes away by car. We'll pop across maybe one or twice a term to meet up for lunch.

tobee · 28/08/2017 15:20

Dd only for dgp 50th anniversary party, my dm 80th and her own 21st! But it was at least 2 1/4 hours by train.

tobee · 28/08/2017 15:20

Dd only for dgp 50th anniversary party, my dm 80th and her own 21st! But it was at least 2 1/4 hours by train.

zizza · 28/08/2017 20:32

With my 2 uni students (one just graduated and one 5th year vet student) we definitely see them Christmas and Easter, then usually at least once between Sept & Christmas and once between Christmas & Easter - either they came home or we went to visit.

MrsBartlet · 28/08/2017 20:32

Dd is an hour and a half away. She rarely comes home during term but I have to go to her university city twice a month for work so we meet for coffee, breakfast or lunch when I am there. On the one occasion when I suggested we didn't need to meet up as we had seen one another the week before, she was appalled . We often go as a family one weekend mid way through term just to taker her out for lunch and so that she sees dh and ds. I think it depends on the student though. I am not sure ds would want to see me so frequently when he goes!

TinklyLittleLaugh · 29/08/2017 00:31

DS1 was at uni about 20 miles away. Had a season ticket for the football so every fortnight or so would pop home to go to the game on a Saturday afternoon, have dinner at home, then go back to uni. Didn't really sleep over.

DD1 is also about 20 miles away (different uni). She has struggled a bit with fitting in and nipped home quite often midweek for the odd night, which seemed to help. Both mine have cars which made things easier.

However DD2 is off this time and has chosen Dublin over UK Unis. She is not the type to be homesick so I suspect we will have to go there if we want to see her midterm.

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