Can anyone convince me why I should attend graduation. 🎓

[Luv2chat2U]

Hi all.

I'm a mature student who has recently completed my degree with a 1st....


I'm really not bothered by the whole graduation process....I'm not a fan of pictures cluttering the house, got enough! And would likely put it away in storage....can you please tell me any real reason why I should go, if it's really that big a deal etc..I'm quite happy just picking up my certificate ...


Thanks in advance


Thanks

[Tartyflette]

PinkBuffalo who told you that you couldn't go? And why? Was it your family or the University? That's very sad.

[nuttymango]

I didn't bother, it was expensive and I hate that kind of thing.

[Luv2chat2U]

@AnnaMarlowe, it sounds like you had a really good experience, thanks for sharing....I'll take it on board.

@pink Buffalow. I think I'm swaying towards my original view which is to not go. Although money's no issue I'd rather put it towards a nice restaurant....sorry to hear of the family circumstances to why you weren't going to go...oh I'm in the UK too, but I hope I get a golden envelope lol

@empresstomatoketchup.....I'm glad you're pleased with your decision...thanks for sharing.

@tarty...great to hear two sides to the story....thanks for sharing...

@Floralnomad, thanks for sharing your experience....

[Luv2chat2U]

@nuttymango ....Thanks for sharing

[IAmAPaleontologist]

Is this week. I'm dreading it. Vocational qualification, almost everyone in my cohort is now working but I've not had any job offers. The course was incredibly stressful, I had a breakdown and a big depression and anxiety relapse which I am still reeling from. I didn't go to the graduation ball but with family so excited I've ended up getting extra tickets for graduation. The kids want to come, my sister, my parents. So I now have a dress, somewhere booked for lunch. And when I think about going I cry.

[IAmAPaleontologist]

*mine is this week

[exexpat]

to you, Paleontologist. I hope the excitement and support of your family get you through it.

To OP - I have only been to the smallest one of my four potential graduation ceremonies. I don't like fuss, ceremonial stuff or dressing up much, and the huge ceremonies seemed pointless to me, particularly because I was never graduating with my main cohort of friends (eg my first degree was 4 years and I took an extra year abroad so I was out of sync with everyone). The one graduation I did go to was after a two-year diploma course with a small group of people I had got to know well, and we were all involved in the ceremony.

In your situation I would not see the point in attending a mass graduation with loads of strangers. The degree is the important thing - congratulations!

[jaguar67]

Another 'not bothered' here too! Didn't go to mine 28 yrs ago & never regretted it. In fairness, at the time Oxford didn't 'do' everyone en masse & by the time I got myself organised with a date, there was no-one I'd have known and life had moved on. Got the certificate anyway, never affected getting a job (most important thing!) etc. Do recall my Dad being mightily offended - funny as he'd been 'too busy' to attend my sister's at a polytechnic just a few years earlier!

[eatyourveg]

ds isn't going to his next week either - have to say I'm a bit disappointed as I would have liked to have had the photo - we have a rogue's gallery of all the dc with a set of photos documenting each one's educational journey and this would have been the final one in the set for ds1.

At the end of the day its not about me or what hangs on the wall in the dining room, its his day and if he doesn't want to go then I have to respect his wishes - it really wouldn't be his scene at all and I understand completely why he doesn't want to go. -He's going for a masters though so I have a year to work on him -

[Luv2chat2U]

@exepat. Thanks for sharing and for the congratulations. I would in fact be joining my classmates if I attended. It's more that I just don't want the fuss...can't be bothered...similar to your view....


@jaguar 67, seems the Majority on this post share a similar view....

Thank you all for your contribution in helping me decide. 😀

[Luv2chat2U]

@eatyourveg.....I hope your plan works lol....thanks for sharing

[Leeds2]

I would be gutted if I didn't get to go to my daughter's, although would obviously accept that they decision as to whether or not to go would be entirely hers.

[BestIsWest]

I didn't particularly enjoy my own 32 years ago.

I've since been to DD's and my Dad's and loved every minute of them, wouldn't have missed them for the world. I can now understand why my parents were do keen to go to mine.