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I know it's taboo, but Oxford interviews - has your child heard yet?

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Dumbledoresgirl · 28/11/2015 20:37

I am getting a little wound up and can't discuss this at home as we have been over it several times already and ds says it is getting to him!

Has your child heard yet re getting an interview at Oxford? My son's best friend was offered an interview yesterday but my son has not heard anything yet (different college, different subject).

I have been snooping in the student room website and am wondering if certain subjects hear before others.

So, if your child has been offered an interview, which subject are they applying for?

Thanks for indulging a nervous mother!

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Dumbledoresgirl · 01/12/2015 12:31

Hellsbells - I agree about other courses being better, and ds sees it too. He is utterly enthralled by the thought of Oxford though. I hope he doesn't regret any decision he may or may not make.

FordPerfect - keeping my fingers crossed for you. I was thinking we might have to wait until Friday. I am so glad we didn't. Knowing, either way, is better than the dreadful waiting.

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Molio · 01/12/2015 13:01

Rhoda yes phone obviously :)

FordPerfect · 01/12/2015 13:20

Dumbledoresgirl. Thank you. It didn't feel nearly so stressful when I went through the process decades ago. He says that everyone else at his school (no one else is applying for same subject at the same college) has now found out whether they have an interview. The process of communicating decisions feels horribly protracted.

Dumbledoresgirl · 01/12/2015 13:32

He says that everyone else at his school (no one else is applying for same subject at the same college) has now found out whether they have an interview.

I think my ds was in the same position yesterday, although there are only a handful of them (small sixth form) so maybe that wasn't saying much. I took comfort that even people who had been rejected for interview knew, so it wasn't that the successful candidates knew before the unsuccessful.

I don't quite understand the system but I did wonder if ds would hear he had been passed over by his chosen college and picked up by another, and that this extra process took a bit more time. I am told it doesn't quite work like that, but it wasn't a surprise when we heard he had been reallocated.

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hellsbells99 · 01/12/2015 14:18

Students are posting on TSR about who is still waiting etc if that helps?
www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=2730251&page=437

Cherryburn · 01/12/2015 19:27

Well I've told DD I'll drive her to Oxford on Sunday Blush and will use the park & ride I think. Was thinking I'd use Peartree (we're coming from London) which looks the most sensible, unless anyone with experience of using P&R can tell me otherwise?

She's more than capable of getting the train (although she can be a bit flaky sometimes!) but I just feel I'd like to see her safely to the gates of her college. I suspect it's more for my benefit than her's!

PurpleGreenAvocado · 01/12/2015 19:35

Two of my colleagues children have got interviews, they heard some time last week.

HocusCrocus · 01/12/2015 19:58

Cherry, we come from that way - i.e. from London - we come up the M40 and use Thornhill (south of city centre).

Dumbledoresgirl · 01/12/2015 20:32

Peartree is the p&r we use when we go to Oxford but we are coming from the west. It is easy enough to find but I don't think it is the biggest carpark in the history of park and rides. Good ride in though, past lots of the university departments and colleges.

As HocusCrocus says, I would have thought Thornhill would be the natural p&r if coming from the east.

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Molio · 01/12/2015 20:50

Cherry I can see no shame at all in driving a DC to the interview. Apart from anything else, the journey from where we live is bloody - three trains, with delays causing frequent missed connections, and not possible with any certainty for a 10am start, even ignoring the 5am kick off from home. I've driven each DC up, only crashing the car once en route (last year, making DS five hours late). I'm not sure negotiating public transport is the major test during interview fortnight. For DD3 almost nothing was running in any event - that was 2010, the year of the snow. I'd certainly rather deposit them if at all possible - I'd never go as far as the college though - and then after that it's up to them.

Molio · 01/12/2015 20:52

Dumbledoresgirl/ Cherry if it's a Sunday there's ample free parking in town, ten minutes by car on from Peartree, if you know where to go.

Cherryburn · 01/12/2015 20:57

Thanks Molio-can you tell me where to go?!

Cherryburn · 01/12/2015 20:59

Sorry, thanks also Hocus and Dumbledoresgirl for the heads up re P&R!

horsemadmom · 01/12/2015 21:04

DH is driving DD. Hoping he doesn't drive her nuts with 'When I came up.....' stories. Noise cancelling headphones packed.

Dumbledoresgirl · 01/12/2015 22:24

Now I am feeling guilty for thinking ds should get there under his own steam! Perhaps I will drive him after all. Blush Or his dad....he could probably do without me fretting the whole journey that he is going to make a fool of himself...

Molio, your situation fascinates me. Would it be too intrusive to ask, did all 3 of yours get in to Oxford? That would mean at least 2 of them up at the same time. What is that like? (for them and you). I was a few years younger than my siblings and went to a much lowlier institution and cannot imagine what it must be like to be at the same uni at the same time as a sibling.

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Molio · 01/12/2015 22:47

Cherryburn I've sent a message. Hope it helps.

Don't feel guilty Dumbledoresgirl but honestly, so very many parents do drive the DC up that it's not something to feel mollycoddling about. It should be whichever your DS prefers.

It's not intrusive. All six of mine have overlapped with two of the others but they each went to different colleges and have very much had their own 'experience' and they've never been in each other's pockets. It seems very common for siblings to be there together. From my pov it's been a godsend in terms of logistics. It's also been good when there's a graduation or another occasion because of being able to get everyone together.

Interestedininfo · 01/12/2015 22:50

Dumbledoresgirl sorry to hijack this thread but I was wondering which universities you think have the better physics courses and why? I am rather ignorant about physics but one of my DCs seems to have developed a liking for it.

Decorhate · 02/12/2015 06:10

Last year I drove dd up, parked at a P&R, we went for a coffee & then left her to it. She made her own way home by train when the interviews were over. Oxford is beautiful at Christmas so I enjoyed the chance to do some Christmas shopping.

Congrats to all your dcs who have got interviews. That alone is a huge achievement. Hope they all enjoy the experience, whatever the outcome.

RhodaBull · 02/12/2015 09:35

I was planning to drive ds up and then do a sort of drive-by drop by slinging him out of car outside college with the engine still running. Is this possible? I have done p&r before but I need to get there and back within a reasonable time frame so don't have time for a browse round Oxford.

Ah, I remember donkeys years ago on day trips my father always parked by Magdalen deer park as it was free there, and then sometimes in the Selfridges mutli-storey. Now why did they get rid of Selfridges?!

Molio · 02/12/2015 12:45

There's no reason why it's not possible Rhoda, but stopping short by a hundred yards might be more discreet so he doesn't appear too mummied - the student helpers will be hanging around, also other interviewees.

hellsbells99 · 02/12/2015 13:13

DD has still not heard - & her college are posting interview offers/rejections which adds to the delay. I just want to get on with being able to order concert tickets etc! This involves the whole family including my mother coming to visit - so not much point if DD is in Oxford. I have suggested she turn the interview down if offered......😉

FordPerfect · 02/12/2015 13:21

Still no news here. Having looked at TSR Oxford thread it looks as though there are still quite a few waiting for Maths (and some other subjects) from certain colleges.

Dumbledoresgirl · 02/12/2015 13:48

Interestedininfo - I am as ignorant about Physics as you claim to be - more so probably! and what I said about Oxford not having the best course is partly a superficial impression from having been round various Physics departments during Open Days, and partly relaying ds's very individual response.

Let's put it this way: the Oxford physics department is deep within the bowels of a building, no natural light, incredibly old fashioned in appearance. That's the superficial bit. The tutors were the least friendly and accommodating of all that we encountered. There was an undercurrent of 'we're the best learning institution in the world, what we do is the best, why would you question this? Our course has run for decades, why would we want to change it?' Most unis teach broadly the same things in the first 2 years, but some offer more choices for the students and more freedom to personalise the course to meet their particular interests. Oxford has the least choice of all that ds visited as far as I am aware.

From ds's pov, and this is obviously very personal, he has a particular interest in astro-physics and wants to spend a year abroad (Erasmus scheme or similar). I'm not sure about Oxford's astro-physics credentials, but they definitely are not interested in sending students abroad. It is a genuine worry for me that ds isn't being honest with himself when it comes to Oxford - if it was any other uni, I think he would have dismissed it on the basis of the course.

As for which unis are the best at Physics: I really can't say. I can only tell you the ones we considered.

Cambridge was rejected by ds on the grounds that he did not want to do a year of natural science.

UCL (which often comes out top in league tables for Physics) he rejected as he does not want to live in London - we have a close relative who suffered socially, being in London for uni. Ds likes the cloistered/campus environment.

Manchester - ds visited and did not like the city.

Birmingham - is on his list, but probably bottom at the moment as, again, the city does not appeal.

York - ds initially liked, but, having gone there a second time for interview, decided he did not like as the uni does not do research in astro-physics.

Warwick is good for astro- physics.

Ds also applied to Durham (not heard back yet).

He visited Southampton and I thought it was quite impressive but ds did not agree - I forget why. They certainly offered huge choice of modules for first 2 years.

Please bear in mind though that the above is just a mum's view of things. I think your dc needs to decide which aspects of Physics appeals most and look for unis that do research in that area.

I also take the unfashionable view that most unis are going to offer pretty much the same course as all the others, and therefore, liking the place you are living in is almost as important as liking the course.

Sorry, for long waffly post.

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RhodaBull · 02/12/2015 14:00

I thoroughly agree that if you get bad vibes from a town/city, then that doesn't bode well. And although people change (and should change, at that age!) students do generally have a gut feeling whether they are a city or a campus person.

Certainly I agree that London is not for everyone. In fact I'm surprised they have any applicants at all judging by ds's cohort. There was one poor dd of a poster a year or two back who had been allocated accommodation half an hour's tube ride away, and in a flat with foreign students who spoke to each other in their own language. Posters were telling the mother that the girl should get a grip etc etc but I thought that it seemed like a nightmare experience, especially if you're paying 27 flippin' grand for it and the rest.

disquisitiones · 02/12/2015 14:04

As a mathematical physicist, I found the above post really interesting, in terms of what impression UK departments give!

Oxford is definitely strong in astroparticle physics. The buildings are irrelevant (as previous poster stated). Giving lots of choice is not actually a good sign, as most physicists would agree that there is a common core of courses that all prospective physicists should take! Courses which allow choice do so to attract students, but it would not necessarily be in these students' best interests if they wanted to carry on with research.

Of the other choices, York is a bit the odd own out as they aren't really so strong. The others are all strong in their own ways (although I don't think I'd agree that Warwick is particularly good for astronomy and particle physics? Manchester, Southampton, Durham are better. Birmingham also isn't particularly strong in astro?)

I think the top 10-20 courses are all good and the recent REF assessment (assessment of the research) showed that there isn't that much to choose between the departments research wise either, so I agree with choosing based on liking the campus/location/feel of the place.