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Dropped out Uni

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Jacquie1 · 27/09/2015 14:08

My son has dropped out of Uni and am at a loss how to help. In year 2 he had problems in his house, he didn't return after Easter and then applied to resit year 2. Last September he returned to year 2 but by Easter he was so depressed he didn't want to return for the exams. He had changed his flat mates when he originally returned but experienced more problems with his living situation. His flatmates took drugs and he found the living conditions unbearable. He has been at home since Easter and was very down for a long time. We have had several chats and I have supported him as best I can emotionally. He says he is not depressed and will not seek help. I let him chill over the Summer without any pressure. His two brothers were at home for summer and left him to have the Summer with them. We did go and see a career consultant which seemed positive initially but now he does not want to pursue this. We have talked about him travelling and getting a part time job but he has no motivation to do anything. He does seem improved from how he was at Easter but just spends his time at home and visiting the gym. I am able to talk with him but although he talks about travelling and getting a job nothing seems to be happening. I am now at a loss now to know how to help him.

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Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 27/09/2015 18:33

I'm sorry to hear this. I wonder if he is actually clinically depressed. It might help if he sees your GP. Anti-depressants can be very helpful in kickstaring a more positive mindset. The way things are at the moment is not sustainable long-term and he needs (somehow) to understand and accept this. So sorry. Must be a big worry. Thanks

lljkk · 27/09/2015 19:30

what was he studying & why didn't he find a way to find other people to live with.

stonecircle · 27/09/2015 21:36

So uni didn't work out and he doesn't know what he wants to do with his life. That doesn't mean he is clinically depressed (though of course he may be) and I don't like the suggestion that a young man lacking a sense of direction requires medical intervention.

If he was my son I'd stop trying to push him into something and give him more time to take the initiative himself.

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