When they don't get in where they want to go; how to help them emotionally

[KatyMac]

It looks like DD hasn't got funding at her favourite college

She has got funding tho' & at a college she likes

But I need to support her with the adjustment, she is changing college, friends & accommodation when she thought she wasn't

I think I need a bit of support too - adjusting

This is simply life. Have to look at the positive - she has a funded place.Some don't even get that.

Oh I know & she was over the moon when she got it but now realises she will be leaving her friends and her beloved landlady & starting all over again at a new college

I do wonder if the housing issue is the main thing

OK - she is a bit more resilient than I thought

She is planning her new 'room' & first supermarket shop

They live so much in the moment don't they?

katy, I can't help smiling - you won't know me, but I remember your posts about your DD, who is clearly a talented person.

Glad she has sorted herself so fast.

They do bounce don't they & she does LOVE the other college - but change is hard to deal with, unexpected change more so

Of course.

But good for her - you must feel proud you made her this resilient. Most people wouldn't be.

Is it a big practical change for you? I hope the college she's into now is giving enough support about it all.

I agonised about accommodation, finance, food, uniform last time - now I need to do it all again

I don't deal with change well thank goodness she does

They ought to have someone to help you - there must be other people in this situation?

But yes, can imagine it's incredibly stressful.

Everyone else will be the same - I will be better as I have done it before

I'll get a list with accommodation & another with uniform

I'll need to amend our grant application as we probably know where she is going now

It's accommodation I worry about the most - DD wouldn't cope very well in a large student house

We are both feeling a bit brighter this morning

Both making plans

& she has found some girls that are going there on FB

Sounds like she is willing to adapt her plans, get on with it and be positive, so try not to worry. She will be grand. I've also seen your DD's videos and think she seems a lovely girl. Best of luck to her!

Thanks Diane - It's a life skill to have I guess

I think it is Katy and one that some need more than others. If her career is likely to be a transient one (as my DDs is likely to be too) then being able to adapt like this at her young age is really useful.

What is it they call it "a portfolio career"
I think this ability will be vital in her chosen career - so it's a good job she has it

Is your DD in the same business (if I should know I've forgotten, sorry )

Not the same but it is a creative portfolio career. Mine will likely to be freelance from leaving uni so that needs certain skills honing which many of us pick up when we are older.

Yep one of the things I'm proudest of is, that of the 2 jobs she had last summer - both have invited her back, to do more this summer

One was paid last year & will be again, the other was voluntary & will be paid this year (Back stage & event organising) but valuable skills too

Adapt, adjust, create, change they are amazing skills I only learnt much, much later in life