My (Nearly)Empty Nest

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My DS has gone off to Uni.
We took him yesterday and I feel bereft
My first born.....It's a huge adjustment.
How do you deal with all these emotions churning away....

I know how you feel, but just hoping it will get better. Took my DD last weekend, she's my eldest and a really chatty, lovely girl. She's having a great time already and has sent the odd text but it's a huge adjustment from having her at home. I guess it's the realisation that their 'new' life and new friends are now far more important and we have to let go. I'm so happy for her, but miss her so much. I realise I must move on and do some new and interesting things with my life or I will wallow. So, I've signed up to a course and am getting some things done around the house. Trying to focus on how great it is that she's really enjoying uni, it must be dreadful if they are unhappy or homesick. Keep busy, I think it helps.

Come and join us on the empty nest thread. Lots of people feeling the same way!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/higher_education/1924814-EMPTY-NEST-SUPPORT-THREAD-PART-3?pg=23

It's a bit like a wash of hormones and feelings when you first have them and then the same when they go. Like the tide.
Sorry. It's late and I've had wine. But that's how it felt for me.
It gets better.

Thank you for your comments.
Been awake since 3am worrying (to myself) that all will be well for DS.
You want them to love University and settle but you just miss them so much.
My hormones do feel all over the place Lets but have a feeling that could also be the start of the menopause
Littleham I will have a look at the other thread, Thanks

Having a party today for Grandparents, with extended family, this is going to be hard as everyone will be here but DS

whats it is really hard, there's no getting away from it. I've had a busy week to try and distract myself. Had to send a few things up that she needed and no replies to texts asking if they had arrived (which made me really upset). Anyhow, she phoned for the first time last night and it was so great to hear from her - she'd been too busy to reply to texts apparently! I think the really hard thing is that it seems such a sudden, complete break, like (now this is a bit dramatic) but like when your baby's umbilical cord is cut and you realise they are part of the world and not part of you.

I too have hormones all over the place, which really doesn't help. My way of coping is to get a bit manic, I'm starting some decorating now (not her room!). Hope the party is ok, somehow well meaning relatives can make thing's worse with all the "oh, you must be missing him/her so much!" and you have to grit your teeth, smile and say "I'm fine!". It will get better, I hope

The house is so empty an quiet. I can't stand it. My second son left for boarding school (A levels) and oldest at Uni. Now 16 year old doesn't want to come home this weekend because he wants to go to his friend's house. I'm supposed to be happy he has new friends he wants to see more than me? (I did pretend it was great when I was talking to him.)

I feel dried up and old, like I am waiting to die.

Have you read Bill Bryson: "On Losing a Son (To College)"? Says it quite well, I think: palmersworld.blogspot.co.uk/2006/05/on-losing-son.html

fairy I'm trying to keep busy,work in the week so not too bad. This weekend has been really hard. Haven't heard from DS since Thursday ( presume no news is good news), the temptation to text is so strong but I don't want to bombard him while he's getting used to his new life.
Decorating sounds like a good idea!! We've put off doing it for ages.

Clara Feel proud of your achievements (easier said than done). You have two fab DS's that are enjoying life and not being fearful of getting out and exploring the world ( bit over dramatic)
The passage by Bill Bryson- spot on. You do get caught up with all the hubub of going to Uni (prison cell made me laugh) and then they are gone. Roll on Christmas ( don't say that very often) and all the DC's will be home