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How do you mark your DC going to university?

9 replies

MummiUni · 28/08/2014 08:43

What did you do or what are you planning to do?
Nothing?
Small family meal?
Large get together?
Lots of farewell gatherings?

DH and I have tickets for an event the evening before and I don't think we should go. DH thinks life goes on and we should go. But I just feel Hmm DD may never live here again HmmHmm

Thoughts?

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goinggetstough · 28/08/2014 09:30

We usually take them out for a meal one evening before they go. It is not necessarily the last evening.
I understand that going off to university is the end of the chapter of their lives but more importantly it is the beginning of a new one for them. So IMO normal life doesn't stop and also it can put added pressure onto the student. They both knew how proud we were/are of them and staying in or going to an event will not change that fact. Plus they might also want to go out with their friends on their last night.

mumeeee · 28/08/2014 09:57

We had a family meal together on the evening before they went but you could do this earlier in the week. DD1 was in our home city and her halls were only 20 minutes walk away. So we went with her a couple of times in the moving in week just to make sure she had everything. DD2 and 3 went further away, So DH and I took them and we looked round the towns and had lunch together.

LightastheBreeze · 28/08/2014 10:15

We just had a small family meal a few day before. I would go to your event and do something with your DD a few days before, she may be glad of having the evening before free to sort out her last minute items or see her friends.

Although she may not ever live with you again she will be back for odd days or weeks in the holidays even if she is really busy or got a job.

KatyMac · 28/08/2014 22:32

My parents went out the night before I left & my Godmum took me to Blackpool & we did the lights & chips & candy floss etc

It was the most marvellous night out & all the more memorable as she is very much Hyacinth Bucket so it was so out of character!!

DH & I are taking DD to see Westside Story the night before she leaves

CuttedUpPear · 28/08/2014 22:38

I just cried in the car on my way back from dropping her off Sad

Mind you that was three years ago and all went well Smile

KatyMac · 28/08/2014 22:50

Oh Bless!

DD has arranged it so I won't; we move all her stuff down mid-week by car then come home & she pops off at the weekend on the train

No tears (at least no visible ones)

BackforGood · 28/08/2014 23:44

Weren't planning to do anything.
We've had a few celebrations - big family meals etc this Summer anyway (for big birthdays and other events) so not planning to do anything specifically to mark him leaving.

madeofkent · 29/08/2014 11:45

A quiet family meal at his favourite restaurant. We do it at the end of every break now. So there'll be another one coming up at the end of September... It's always a bittersweet occasion, as I really miss him, but in front of me I have all the past views of him over the years superimposed on his image, in my mind. I can see how he has aged and changed, but still with that enthusiasm for life as he talks about what he hopes to do over the next semester. I wouldn't want a big party, I want that time just for us, he can have parties when he goes back to Uni!

CanISlytherin · 03/09/2014 21:59

My parents bought me a new desk Hmm

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