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graduation question

9 replies

Katkins1 · 21/05/2014 20:50

Hi, once I finish and submit my thesis next week, I will have finished my undergrad. It's been a real struggle. I was diagnosed with ptsd in my second year, single mum, two bereavements suring my third and second years. But it's just a conclusion and bibliography left to go now! I never thought I'd get this far, but I have. I really want to celebrate, but I don't know how. This sounds silly, but I grew up in a really abusive and violent hone. I've never even had a birthday party for myself, my little one has, of course. I know it's not a major thing, but I want to mark the occasion in some way. I've got some freelance work and two post grad offers too. I'm really proud of myself, and it sounds a bit conceited, but any ideas on how I could celebrate? I haven't got any parents or family at around, but lots of good friends. Should I even Mark the occasion in some way? Help please lovely forum folk!

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LRDtheFeministDragon · 21/05/2014 21:02

Definitely mark it!

You want to get dressed up in a gown, you want photos of you with your certificate - when else do you get to dress like that?! I guess you're limited in who can come to your ceremony but you could get a bigger group to meet you outside with cameras so you can have some pictures.

I don't think it sounds conceited at all. It's a rite of passage, something you've worked for - why wouldn't you acknowledge it?

Katkins1 · 21/05/2014 21:17

We graduate in October,the gowns and stuff. I don't know what people do to celebrate their results and stuff, I don't even go out really!

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LRDtheFeministDragon · 21/05/2014 21:35

Well, what do you want to do? If it were me I think I'd get some friends to turn up with wine and a really un-academic film to watch, but that's just me. IME non-mature students go and get very, very drunk and go clubbing, but that might appeal less! Grin

craftysewer · 21/05/2014 22:00

My dd graduates in July and is going out with her Uni friends that night to celebrate so we are going to go out for afternoon tea with her and her sisters. Will anyone be coming to watch you graduate?

Katkins1 · 22/05/2014 19:51

I don't know what I want to do, it's been so long since I've done anything really! I wouldn't go out with people from uni. I'm in a very very immature group, we aren't friends. Though I have friends in other subjects.

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GeordieMama · 22/05/2014 20:02

Be very proud of what you've achieved and celebrate in whatever way you'll enjoy the most. I'm sure your friends will be happy to help you.
My friends and I celebrated getting our lives back when we handed in our dissertations then also celebrated on graduation day. We were 21/22 so just went out on the town but it was great to blow off some steam after finishing such big pieces of work.

Katkins1 · 22/05/2014 21:07

:) Thank you. I hand in next Wednesday - still a bit left to do it (especially referencing, which is a bit all over the place- job for the weekend). Staying up all night tonight to finish the main writing, so a break will be in order, I think....

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justjuanmorebeer · 05/06/2014 21:03

So now it is Thursday I am guessing you handed in! Congrats! I finish soon too within a couple of weeks, let me tell you what I am doing. Today was my last exam. I fancied going to the pub but everyone busy so instead I am chilling with wine, iplayer and I had chips.
When I graduate in Sept ish depending on which city I get to do that (with OU so various choices) I plan to make a weekend of it with friends and family and city we end up in depends on what we do.
When I hand in my final dissertation I will probably meet friends and my old tutor that weekend and maybe have a meal, or just drinks in the city I live in. I have been saving for this month for ages and been such a recluse haven't been able to spend anyway.
What sort of things do you like?

EduCated · 05/06/2014 21:12

A weekend away to the seaside? Ice cream and fish and chips with the DC?

Or do you fancy ditching them and getting royally drunk? Grin

And of course you should celebrate, finishing is a bloody achievement for anybody, let alone with all the extra stuff you've come through too!

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