My DH and I would be grateful for any advice anyone can give us. My DSS has been at Uni since September (living there) and we have just found out he is thinking of leaving. We just don't know what to do. His Dad spoke to him by phone on Saturday and has asked him not to do anything until after he had been home or the Christmas break and we have had chance to talk to him as to the reasons etc. DH said he sounded fine in himself,all he said was he didn't think he was capable of doing the course now and thinks maybe getting a job would be better!! Like it's that easy to get a job!!!
To give a little back ground,prior to going to Uni he did nothing 99% of the time but play on computer games in his room. He had done 2 x 2year college courses as he decided he didn't do well in the first one (through lack of effort) and so did a different course.In this he was doing brilliantly until nearer the end when he was given an unconditional Uni place so didn't make effort to get good grades,he did pass the course but could have done so much better.
We tried for the four years since he left schoolto get him to even get a part time job but hit a brick wall everytime. Not helped by the fact his Grandma kept giving him money handouts so he didn't need to work!!
I have a few real worries, on the one hand I am worried about him, his happiness,future etc but than from the other point of view (and this makes me feel really selfish) I am worried of the financial implications if he packs the course in, comes home to us and can't/won't get a job. I really feel for the stress this is going to put on the rest of the family & me and my DH's relationship.
Do we offer sympathy and support (he is 21 by the way) or is it time for a sharp reality check and if so how do we do it. Also does anyone know the implications for him regarding his student loans/grants/accomodation etc.
Thanks for any advice.