DD phoned last night. Now I need "Further Education" at Future Mother-in-law school!!!

[Milliways]

SO excited for her, and couldn't be happier with my future Son-in-law.

She is in her final year, having a ball and even has a job lined up for next year too.

Now- what rules do I need to learn to be a successful MIL????

Accept that you don't come first any more.
Only give advice if asked.
Make a relationship with Son-in-Law that has nothing to do with DD, a friend in his own right. Be friendly with DD's future ILs.
Congratulations!

Thank You. We have only met one of his parents (briefly) when dropping them off at Uni, but they seem great too.

It's going to be a whole knew learning experience :)

I am surprised that you haven't got more replies when MN, in general, has so much trouble with MILs.

I was married younger than her - and they will wait another year to graduate & settle into jobs etc. They are both very sensible as well, and I am sure they will be very happy.

Exotic - I could have posted an AIBU thread, but I spend a lot of my MN time around the education boards. :)

Congratulations on the engagement. Now you will have a wedding to plan! Hopefully. Have they set a date?

Presumably this is the Cambridge DD who has therefore done the expected thing and come out of university with a degree and a husband. Hopefully it isn't a shotgun wedding though even if it is they often work out fine.

I dont know why this news is making me feel grumpy. I think its because though weddings are the more decent outcomes of college social life, it all seems so much pressure on the DC at quite a young age. Yet so many people I know did meet their spouses at university. Its just symptomatic of this decade all so goal orientated and fast. Not that free love was necessarily better but it wasn't so calculated.

I am sorry I think I must be jealous or something - or a bit tired of being friendly with my DC girlfriend and boyfriend, nice enough people but I wouldn't want them to marry them. Congratulations again. Where will the penniless newly graduated debt ridden couple live?

Gosh to previous post...

You'll be all right for the moment Milliways. It's when your DS gets hitched that the trouble begins

Congratulations Milliways - wonderful news

I met my DH at college. We didn't marry for another 9 years mind...

Yes, sorry, I am just being a grumpy old mum. Though I was offended when a mum at my DD school suggested the only reason I was pleased she was going to Oxford was to find a husband. Then there was the astonishing programme which David Starkey made at the time of the royal wedding, talking about universities as the current day marriage markets. If I was totally honest with myself and had more mental energy I would doubtless throw myself into the finding and spotting a husband malarkey. In a subtle way of course. As it is, I'm deeply thankful I have a few more years left.

Anyway if this is the same DD who had a rough time in her first year I am really pleased.

Thanks everyone.

Yes FunnyPerson - this is my Cambridge DD, and she is now in her 3rd year, having survived a bumpy first - which was smoothed by meeting her DP.

Definitely not a shotgun wedding . They are making plans for about a year away, to be determined by where their work placements land them. I will be very intimidated having 2 Cambridge graduates beating me at all Christmas family games now! :)

I met my DH aged 11 and we were married at younger than DD is now, so I cannot complain!

Congratulations Milliways. DD1 got
engaged in the summer before her Final year in fact they were both going
Into their final year. They both got their deferred and got married I in the March after they had finished uni, DH and I found it very strange at first ad now our little girl was gone forever. But they've now been married for 2 and a half years. Our SIL is great. They live in London and we don't see them often but we keep in touch by phone. I don't give them advice unless they ask .

Congratulations Miliways! DH and I met 14/15, started dating Christmas lower VI, engaged Christmas first year at (different) university and married as soon as we graduated. 18 years and going strong.

Thanks Mumeeee. Yes, thinking she will never be coming back here to live for any length of time is odd. She starts training for her job next Summer so will only be home for a very few weeks, if that, after exams. At least she will have a salary though :)

Awww, lovely news.

Have you thought of finding a Further Ed class in mother-of-the-bride hatmaking? It could be a whole new career: Millinery by Milliways

Congratulations to the young couple!

Such an unusal story for the threads though - getting engaged while still at college (nearly said 'uni' then but another thread would flame me!). Mostly the young engaged copuples stories are NOT Cambridge undergrads.

When I left Uni 30 years ago two couples from my group fo best friends got married immediately - so age 21. If you're going to spend the rest of your life together, why not start right away!

You need to keep us fully informed with wedding planning threads from now on!

Senua! I do not "do" hats and have never worn one apart from the sun-hat variety as a child!

Thanks GettingaLifeNow :) I say she's at Uni, so now worries with that one!

No doubt I will be boring everyone over the next year with many Wedding related Threads......