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Hand holding for anyone who has dcs taking as levels this month

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sharbie · 15/05/2011 17:18

That's it really.
DS is taking his first re-sit tomorrow and then has more as levels next week.
Must get him to revise.Must get him to revise.

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mrsgmhopkins · 15/05/2011 17:19

Yeah, good luck with that. Same situation here.

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sharbie · 15/05/2011 17:22

He has extremely conveniently ensured his backpack has been wherever he has not this weekend.I keep handing it to people hoping him and his books will meet up.

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sharbie · 15/05/2011 17:27

good luck too mrs.

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mrsgmhopkins · 15/05/2011 17:59

So hard when they're this age, isn't it? Of course they are responsible for their own actions, but you still feel you ought to be doing something to protect/enhance their future.

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sharbie · 15/05/2011 18:56

absolutely.

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mrsgmhopkins · 15/05/2011 19:43

Dh had a stern word about revising. So I don't get all the daggers looks. We don't have one tomorrow, but on two other days next week.

They're really over-tested these days, aren't they? IMO.

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sharbie · 15/05/2011 19:46

i have asked my ds to pay half the cost of his 2 resits - what do you reckon my chances are??

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eatyourveg · 16/05/2011 16:13

ds1 has his first exams on Friday, one in the morning one in the afternoon. He doesn't seem to have done any revision other than the work the school have been setting.

He doesn't like the idea of uni anymore as its " another 3 years of school and a whole load of debt" so has given up going for the best grades he can. Have been reduced to tears several times by his nonchalance but trying not to let him see how screwed up its making me.

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sharbie · 16/05/2011 17:17

gcses are horrible veg by the time they get to as level like my ds you kind of let them get on with it.i found in this last year nothing i did or said sadly made any difference.
ds has just strolled in (after visiting greggs!) to tell me it all went ok.good i said - yeah he replied but i thought that last time when i did really badly.
sigh.

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eatyourveg · 16/05/2011 21:29

sharbie ds is already at as level - its uni that he sees as just another 3 years of schooling. Yes gcse time was horrid and its because of all the tension, hostility and yelling about revision that was forever going on, that this year I have tried to back off - but its really hard when you can see him throwing his life chances away.

Part of me thinks he'd be better off failing or at least getting naff grades to give him a wake up call but then part of me thinks, he couldn't give a damm either way.

Especially hard to swallow as he is at an independent school on 2 scholarships and a bursary with grandparents funding the shortfall.

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sharbie · 16/05/2011 23:14

sorry when you said school i assumed gcses.
hmmmmmm yes we have really been through it these last few weeks -leaving college,applying for apprenticeship,going for interview,being accepted,then changing mind and going back to college. sigh.
i really didn't want him to leave college but couldn't bear the thought of another year of nagging etc so let him apply.luckily he saw sense.

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snorkie · 17/05/2011 00:29

it is tough for them with all these exams - it seems quite relentless over quite a few years and very different from when I did O and A levels. Plus having to think about university applications and decide if cost is worth it (major issue for this years tear 12s), I'm not surprised they are a bit jaded.

ds has first one on Fri - his are very spread out this time around, which is good in some ways but does rather prolong the agony. He is quite laid back but will probably do fine anyway and does finally seem to have started revising. I am more worried about dd (yr10) and her first GCSE modules at the moment, it is difficult to let them make their own mistakes, but they won't be told.

eatyourveg · 17/05/2011 08:10

ds1 did his first module in Y9. This will be the 4th summer of public exams and he's still got next years A2s.

Can't blame him in a way for wanting to jump ship so I'm looking at gap year options (work or volunteering) as I think maybe having a year out of the system might make him see sense. Glad your ds decided to stay on.

I think maybe if ds1 had moved to the grammar for the 6th form like many of his friends he might be thinking differently but they didn't offer the same subjects.

mrsgmhopkins · 17/05/2011 10:51

I'm a fan of gap years, eatyourveg. Much better than carrying on on a treadmill and hating every minute of it. They need to decide for themselves what to do.

Ds just had the first of this summer's. Seemed to go OK. Ready for the next...

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sharbie · 17/05/2011 11:25

ok thinking of a plan here
if he gets ok marks in his exams this year the gap year will be the carrot for me to dangle to keep him going to college next year

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mrsgmhopkins · 17/05/2011 12:44

Carrots - always useful.

Hard to find carrots ds will go for - he even maintains he doesn't 'need' money. We are trying to use driving-related privileges.

Just had a panic about today's exam, completely unnecessarily; he has now reassured me. FGS I'll be a nervous wreck by the end of them.

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sharbie · 18/05/2011 12:32

maths today def the most taxing for ds eeeek

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eatyourveg · 18/05/2011 17:09

how did it go sharbie?

I've spent all day searching for jobs to see what is out there for ds should he chuck it all in - Zilch! Not even a vacancy at McDonalds. All that was there were cleaners, carers or graduate posts. He really does need to get these AS grades so he can stay on for A2s and not shut the door on a chance to go to uni.

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sharbie · 18/05/2011 18:37

direct quote from ds veg - 'rubbish'

he said only 12 questions - he doubts he got any right........hmmmmm
more maths exams later though

depressing news about the jobs isn't it?what about those apprenticeships - would they be worth considering if yr ds drops out?

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eatyourveg · 19/05/2011 08:24

I'd consider everything, ds1 however won't consider anything.

Saw one of his teachers yesterday and I asked if he was on course to get anything other than a U and her reply was that he ought to do well but then she asked me if he had decided then that he was going to turn up!

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