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Guest post: "World affairs are complex, but as parents and carers, our foremost wish is simple - the safety and wellbeing of our children"

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RhiannonEMumsnet · 02/03/2026 12:30

As some of you may have seen, earlier this year Juliet Stevenson, together with a group of other prominent women, wrote to Mumsnet Founder Justine to ask whether Mumsnet might consider lobbying the UK government to do more diplomatically to ensure that aid reaches families and children in Gaza. The letter was intended to remain private but was accidentally published.

Following a thoughtful and constructive meeting with Juliet, in which we talked through how Mumsnet’s campaigning is shaped by the views and lived experiences of our users, we agreed it would be right to publish this piece from the group and open up the conversation more widely.

It has been written in conjunction with the humanitarian charity Small Steps Project and grassroots campaigns All Our Relations and Gaza Formula Fund, all run by British mums.

As ever, we welcome your views.

Months after the ‘ceasefire’ in Gaza, Unicef condemns the fact children continue being killed “from airstrikes, from drones, from tank shelling, they’re killed from live ammunition, they’re killed from [remote-controlled] quadcopters.” Christmas brought heart-breaking reports of small babies dying of hypothermia.

Nowhere is the impact of the violence of blocking aid more evident than with Gaza's pregnant women and their babies. In early December, Unicef raised the alarm on Gaza's maternity crisis, with its report on newborn mortality, emphasising a 75% increase in babies dying on their first day of life. They warn that “mothers who’ve been left starving in Gaza are now giving birth to underweight or premature babies who die in intensive care units or struggle to survive as they endure acute malnutrition".

They predicted this 'domino effect from mother to child' would continue for months to come as the root causes; trauma, a collapsed healthcare system and lack of nutrition, all fail to be addressed. Too many women are giving birth alone, without medical assistance, pain relief or even the most basic conditions of cleanliness. The risks to the life of both mother and baby, and likelihood of lifelong complications, are huge.

The lack of sanitation, inability to access a bathroom and basic privacy is particularly distressing for Gaza’s 700,000 women and girls during menstruation. Sanitary pads and basic hygiene supplies have long been on the list of items restricted by the Israeli government and despite the absurdity, this continues. Not only does it have a profound impact on women's dignity and ability to be active members of the community during these periods, more worryingly, the makeshift solutions they are reduced to can lead to infections and cause lifelong reproductive complications.

What is being done to women and children in Gaza is not the consequence of a natural disaster, but human decision making, and the world’s most renowned aid organisations insist there are basic actions that would immediately alleviate much of this suffering. As the British government is an ally to the Israeli government, we call on them to use their diplomatic power and insist on those tangible actions.

They must demand the complete reversal of the upcoming ban on 37 aid agencies who provide much of the medical infrastructure remaining. Governments worldwide, including allies such as the UK, issued a joint statement condemning this shocking move which means banning internationally renowned INGOs including Oxfam, International Rescue Committee and Médecins Sans Frontières/Doctors Without Borders (MSF) but statements without consequences are useless.

Israel claims this unprecedented ban was implemented because agencies had not shared “data” about their employees, funding and operations including sensitive personal information which Israel claims must be handed over for the sake of “security and transparency”. However, throughout the killing of the past 2 years, over 500 aid workers and 1,500 health workers have been murdered, often in targeted strikes and in many cases alongside their children. As a result, in order to comply with international law and duty of care to their employees, aid agencies insist they must take the same actions as they do globally, and refuse to share such details when they are aware it would risk the lives and safety of their staff. They warnFalse narratives delegitimize humanitarian organizations, endanger staff, and undermine the delivery of assistance.”

These risks are well understood, just four months ago, 11 National Medical Associations including the BMA called for independent investigations into Israeli illegal detention and abuse of Gaza’s healthcare workers and condemned the fact they “have been continuously targeted, detained, tortured”.

As this new ban comes into effect, organisations worldwide warn it will plunge
the maternity crisis into catastrophe. MSF alone provides 1 in 5 of the hospital
beds, and delivers 1 in 3 of Gaza’s babies, to remove them now is inconceivable. The fragile system simply will not cope without their presence.

Oxfam, alongside a group of leading humanitarian organisations, has been forced to take legal action against the state, saying “Israel’s move to deregister Oxfam and other humanitarian organisations has no factual or legal basis and reflects escalating pressure on groups documenting violations or supporting Palestinian civilians”.

World affairs are complex, but as parents and carers, our foremost wish is simple - the safety and wellbeing of our children. Despite the announcement of the ‘ceasefire’, the killing continues and the intentional destruction of Gaza’s infrastructure, buildings, medical and educational systems has merely changed form. Gaza’s families are being deliberately prevented from recovering. They desperately require access to the most basic of human needs: safety, health, warmth, food, education.

This is not a fringe issue, and concerned voices from across the world are calling for an end to this senseless barbarity, upon which we will surely all look back in horror. With our shared experience as women and mothers, we must use our collective power to advocate for those mothers and babies enduring an ongoing maternity crisis, those women and girls facing gender-specific indignity and pain. Israel stands accused of genocide by leading scholars and institutions across the globe. We must demand all governments, including our own, who are allied to those making decisions on Gaza assume the responsibility to act now.

Written in conjunction with humanitarian charity Small Steps Project and grassroots campaigns All Our Relations and Gaza Formula Fund, all run by British mums. With aid consistently blocked from Gaza, these women worked with people on the ground to buy commercially available goods and distribute them among Gaza’s desperate families, bringing baby formula, nappies, food, clothing and other basic supplies to those most in need. The need is enormous and ongoing, and these families have been forgotten. Please, please support their work at the links above.

Thank you.

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JoMacInnes · 02/03/2026 16:26

Could not agree more. It is a total outrage and I commend Mumsnet for this post. It is all of our responsibility to do something and there could not be a better platform for lobbying our Government

B9hzad · 02/03/2026 16:54

This is such a powerful and necessary piece. Huge respect to all those involved for using their voices to shine a light on the devastating reality facing mothers and babies in Gaza. The focus on maternity care, newborn survival, and basic dignity for women and girls makes this impossible to ignore.

LibertyPorter · 02/03/2026 19:23

I am not able to sleep at night thinking of these mothers and babies. Thank you for doing something.

KLogan · 02/03/2026 19:56

Thank you for this post, Mumsnet, and everyone involved. All too often this situation is presented as complicated, when the reality for families on the ground is anything but. The need for humanitarian aid is devastatingly simple and the Israeli occupation has been blocking it for totally unfounded reasons designed to smear an entire population as 'terrorists'. As a mum of young children who are safe and fed, it has been devastating and enraging to watch world leaders make excuses for the mass slaughter of children and civilians, and failing to hold Israel accountable to the most essential humanitarian norms. Not only is it unconscionable to allow this to happen to any population, but also, if this can be allowed to happen to the Palestinians in full view of the world, nothing is forbidden anymore; no human rules are sacred. Is that the world we wish our children to grow up in?

Decisiontimenow · 02/03/2026 23:08

I'm really grateful to see this on here. It has been bizarre to watch so many parents justify what's been done to Palestinians, with everything that has been recorded and reported. I hope Mumsnet do lend their voice and I hope this information is much more widely known. We're now watching the whole region get thrown into chaos and for what?

BelleHathor · 02/03/2026 23:38

Thank you for highlighting this, it's extremely important for the future of humanity, to give these mothers a glimpse of hope and show them that people care is pricesless.

Dirtydianaoh · 02/03/2026 23:39

Thank you mumsnet

TulipsAndLavender · 03/03/2026 07:14

Thank you for doing this. the silence from so many parents about what is happening has been heartbreaking. I am glad Mumsnet are taking a proper stance on it.

MyThreeWords · 03/03/2026 07:23

Thank you for highlighting this. I fully support the aims of the organisations mentioned in the post and am endlessly amazed by the various voices that seek to delegitimise humanitarian aims in Gaza.

A side note: Juliet Stevenson I've loved you so much as an actor, ever since I saw you in A Doll's House way back in 1992.

For anyone who hasn't seen this great production of a feminist classic, it is on Iplayer at the moment.

Boolabus · 03/03/2026 08:10

Thank you for taking this on mumsnet. I have been extremely shocked and disillusioned by the reactions of many posters on this site to the humanitarian manmade catastrophe in Gaza and how it is directly impacting the lives of women and children. It has been clear in the eyes of many that some lives matter more than others. I will absolutely support the work of those agencies and share their links widely. As someone who works with children and families experiencing poverty and trauma I cannot begin to imagine what these families are going through and despite my experience I would struggle to know where to begin to even help them, the task feels so impossible with the conditions they are living in and the continued trauma they are experiencing. My thoughts are also with the humanitarian workers who risk their lives daily to support and help them, heroes.

ScrollingLeaves · 03/03/2026 08:21

Thank you for this. It could not be more important than at this time when everyone’s eyes are diverted towards Iran. I dread to think what further horrors will be happening in Gaza now.

nommsunited · 03/03/2026 09:23

Thank you so much for this post. The world is dark at the moment, and we need to protect ALL children.

Strawb1981 · 03/03/2026 09:58

wow such a needed post and so powerful- I also struggle to sleep at night thinking of all the women and children and babies suffering in Gaza. It’s unimaginable. I wish there was something tangible that could be done to push our government to take action, it’s seems they’re not doing a thing to help!!

TwinklyRubyRaven · 03/03/2026 14:47

Thank you so much for this post. As someone TTC I cant imagine the heartbreak of conceiving, carrying and raising a child just for senseless violence from the 1% making decisions!! My heart breaks for my sisters and their children in Palestine and Iran. I will look into the links you provided, thank you again

Martymcfly24 · 03/03/2026 16:34

Thank you for this post.

Sometimes it seems inconceivable that the world stands idly by. We spend billions to eradicate diseases and improve quality of life and then somewhere else life is just worthless.

There but for the grace of God we swop places with these women and their families.

Ellen2shoes · 03/03/2026 22:17

Thank you for this post. There was a thread where posters were complaining that MMHQ were even approached on the issue. It has been awful to read support on here for the decision to ban MSF. I’m very glad to read this response. I just wish that it could be more visible on the ME forum where opinions were so shockingly in support of the decision to block such crucial aid.

Sm90 · 04/03/2026 13:39

TulipsAndLavender · 03/03/2026 07:14

Thank you for doing this. the silence from so many parents about what is happening has been heartbreaking. I am glad Mumsnet are taking a proper stance on it.

Thank you so much for writing this. It’s something I can’t stop thinking about and don’t understand how we have allowed this to continue so long. I am steeped in shame over it and know we need to do more, much more.

Bambinoway · 04/03/2026 20:37

I really am pleased to see this shared here. I cannot understand anyone who reacts with anything other than heartbreak and the utmost compassion when witnessing the human rights horror unfolding in Gaza. It is our great shame that we have not been able to stop this, and I am sure that mothers everywhere feel as I do - that they are all our children.

Boolabus · 05/03/2026 08:44

@RhiannonEMumsnet I have already expressed gratitude for this thread but unfortunately I am continuing to see many posters on other parts of your site justifying and being extremely derogatory about the women and children caught up in this horrific mess. I am now finding this thread very tokenistic when the rest of your site facilitates a platform for these views to be expressed. What was the point of starting this thread in light of that? feels very hypocritical

Kalnor92 · 05/03/2026 11:53

It's good to see this powerful post on Mumsnet. The banning of humanitarian aid is both barbaric and morally indefensible, particularly with regard to its devastating impact on women and children. We have a collective duty to help protect them and provide a beacon of hope amidst all the suffering. Huge thanks to those involved in raising awareness around this issue and to Mumsnet for opening out the conversation at such a crucial time...

JaneJeffer · 08/03/2026 19:22

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