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Guest post from the Home Secretary: “The most vulnerable children urgently need more protection during lockdown”

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BojanaMumsnet · 03/06/2020 09:22

More children than ever now have access to the internet, with as many as half of all 10-year-olds owning a smartphone. Some spend more time chatting online than they do with friends or relatives in person.

As parents, we know the huge benefits the online world can bring to our children – opening up new horizons at the swipe of a screen – but we also have to be alive to the horrific dangers it can harbour.

The past weeks have undoubtedly been a difficult time for families, with parents having to juggle work and homeschooling. Many will be even more anxious after hearing warnings that internet predators may take advantage of the fact that children are off school and spending longer online.

I share your concerns and will use the full might of our law against these vile criminals. As Home Secretary, I work across government and policing to help ensure vulnerable children are protected from abuse. But as a parent, I too worry about my son when he spends hours on his phone. We don’t want to take our children’s devices away from them, but we need to make sure that they’re being protected from people approaching them who intend to do them harm.

Thankfully, parents don’t have to navigate the complexities of internet safety alone. Forums like Mumsnet are a wonderful way to brainstorm ideas, support each other and share experiences of the different ways children are dealing with the pressures of the lockdown, and some of the threats and challenges they are confronted with.

There are also plenty of resources developed by specialists and children’s charities which can help parents protect their children online, and we have compiled this guidance to help parents and carers find the right ones. It highlights the importance of age-appropriate parental controls, which I use myself for my son. These controls can help block unsuitable content, including nudity or excessive violence, or prevent children from buying things when playing games.

Our excellent law enforcement agencies are also working flat out to keep our children safe, including advising parents and carers how they can play their part. The National Crime Agency’s Thinkuknow campaign helps children of all ages develop the skills, knowledge and confidence they need to identify risk online and access help when they need it. The campaign includes animations for primary-age children and, for teens, guidance on relationships and sending images.

It also advises on steps we can all take to protect our children. This can be keeping communication channels open and talking to them about online dangers, or discussing their favourite new websites and apps – which may have changed during the pandemic. For younger children, it is also advised to talk about online safety as soon as they have an interest in using a family device – Thinkuknow has lots of advice on how to do this in an age-appropriate way.

Alongside ensuring parents are armed with the tools they need to protect their families, I am working across the government and with charities to ensure our children stay safe. The amazing voluntary sector has been ramping up their efforts to protect young people in this time of crisis, and we are continuing to work together to ensure that victims and survivors have access to the best possible support.

My mission to make the internet a safe place for young people to thrive has not been thrown off course by Coronavirus. The government continues to work at pace on our Online Harms legislation, which will place a legal duty on tech firms to protect vulnerable users from harmful content.

And we are acting now to do more when the most vulnerable children may need it most. That includes those who are not safe in their own homes, who may feel particularly vulnerable, afraid and exposed during the lockdown period. Last month, the Prime Minister hosted a Hidden Harms Summit to bring together experts and organisations to explore what more we can do to protect vulnerable people during and after lockdown, including children at risk of sexual abuse.

Have no doubt, while children are at risk of these heinous crimes, we will provide help wherever it is needed. As a Government we’ve provided additional funding of over £3.2 billion for local authorities, helping them to support the most vulnerable during lockdown. We have also invested £1.6 million to expand and promote the NSPCC’s helpline for adults, offering advice and support on how to raise concerns about children at risk.

Our next big step will be to publish a national strategy later this year to tackle all forms of child sexual abuse and bring predators to justice.

My message to worried parents is simple. I know how you feel, I share your horror, and I will not stop until we have rooted out the abusers who prey on our children. I have met with victims of sickening child sexual abuse and their stories have only strengthened my resolve to prevent this horrendous crime from shattering the lives of more young people and their families.

That is why I will continue to do everything in my power to crack down on abusers online and offline, and to arm you with the support and tools you need to reduce your child’s risk of being targeted by paedophiles.

As parents, we keep our children’s welfare at the heart of everything we do. Let’s join forces to ensure our loved ones are using the internet in a safe way. Protecting our children’s lives and securing their futures, during lockdown and beyond.

The Home Secretary will respond to some comments and questions next week.

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Lucylou37 · 04/06/2020 17:49

@theDudesmummy I agree with you! Wish Mumsnet would hold them to account, not let them post some pathetic statement walk away from it and then just revisit our questions when they're ready! As always shows a massive arrogance and disregard to the public! Takes us for fools, yet again! This government is one huge embarrassment, and slowly turning into a dictatorship where nobody can question them!

theDudesmummy · 04/06/2020 17:57

Yeah. I would love her to address her boss's disgusting remarks about the IICSA, but she won't.

thenamesarealltaken · 04/06/2020 18:38

I read the OP and thought it was OK. I don't understand the anger. I follow politics, read research papers etc., and so i don't respond as an ill-informed person. I'm not a Tory either, though I'm not hateful towards them. So on the point of the quoted message, I completely understand the need to share ideas and thoughts. It's such a difficult issue.

I could write a novel, but I won't. I was abused from age 3 to 15. I left home at 15 and was homeless (mid 1980's). I had no support, trusted noone, told noone and I believe only some will have had suspicions. I can assure you that many children will tell no-one, they will lie, they will refuse to say when asked and in the case of some, any sniff of suspicion could put them at greater risk. I was stabbed twice and forced to blame my naughty brother. I won't expand unless asked. But, my first suggestions is one that without, I'd probably not be here now...

Schools, give free school meals to all children who opt in, not just children of parents on benefits. Open that up weekend or at least Saturday, and holidays - maybe just a couple of schools. School meals cost same as Child Benefit. That was the only food I received as a child, other than from neighbours who felt sorry for us - I often felt severe hunger. And during holidays it got me out, as parents were ok to palm me off to the school for free food. Food banks would not have worked as I was not allowed any food from our own kitchen. Getting out in the holidays was relief from the prison-like, abusive home life. School was my sanctuary.

I also had no uniform or clean clothes at times. I didn't know who to ask so I stole them. I stopped stealing at 15 and wouldn't dream of it now. Offer a service for children to come to the office in the morning to get changed if they haven't clothes or clean socks etc. Not sure how to keep it quiet though. Maybe even allow children to shower if they attend early enough. Honestly, my parents locked us in a room and the only place we could go in the morning was down stairs (lounge/kitchen locked) and out of the front door. But if the school had approached my parents I'd have been beaten and of course, would have pretended it was something else, or had to stay off school faking sick, etc. Not sure how this could work, but certainly from a certain age when children are bullied, this kind of arrangement would really help. I know some children are still going to school smelly and dirty, ice seen them. My children said they are bullied and other children stay away from them.

Ensure all 'young' children know about clubs and encourage them to join them, etc. Don't assume parents will inform them or allow them to practice whatever it is at home. Obviously permission might be needed. But, some parents won't care either way, including to read notes and sign them. So children can miss out. I knew nothing about clubs until it was too late. I'd have loved to have attended some.

Homework- my dad snapped my pencils if he caught me doing homework. He'd be angry if I tried. I had to sneakily do my homework under the blankets with a torch. But was caught a few times. I left school with 2 O levels - maths and art, which I got at 14 before leaving home to be homeless. Luckily I was a natural at those two subjects. I topped them up later at college, and then progressed as normal... have Masters degree, professional job, etc.

Not all children of terrible parents end up bad. I was looked down upon by everyone it seemed. Many parents would not want their child playing with me or they might interfere. If my parents found out I was letting on there was a problem, I'd not be here today. I'd been hit over the head several times, stabbed twice, nose broken and eye blackened/swollen, whacked with canes, etc. I felt immune to being beaten in the end. Just blamed local kids from the other high school in town, and my mum blamed my brother.

But, my 3 children are brought up well and I did well too. My son is going to a top uni soon to study science with his A*AB grade A levels and my daughters are doing well - all very respectful, considerate and good people. I contributed 3 good people back to society, along with my taxes, etc. All I needed was food - good good not tinned junk. Thank you!

alreadytaken · 04/06/2020 19:33

sorry if this has been asked already but - will you refer to social services anyone who places their child in danger by driving when they are worried their eyesight is faulty? And that's AFTER they have put the poor child at risk by deliberately exposing them to Covid 19 on a long drive. They could easily have had a relative visit them to provide childcare, if both parents became incapacitated (spoiler - they didnt).

These are not the actions of a responsible parent - and for their wife to go along with this perhaps there is some coercive control that needs investigating. If there wasnt she would have been the obvious one to drive home, she does have a license.

Helene1234 · 04/06/2020 19:51

It never fails to amaze me as to how ignorant politicians are. You need wifi to access the internet and not just a smartphone. Many people in Britain check their mobile regularly for messages. Actually, few homes have the internet in Britain and so there is really not much of a problem.

LangClegsInSpace · 04/06/2020 20:11

thenamesarealltaken I'm so sorry to hear what a tough childhood you had. You were terribly let down. You needed far more than just food and all our children need far more than just food.

I'm puzzled that you said I read the OP and thought it was OK. I don't understand the anger because the home secretary has not written about ensuring children don't go hungry and she has not written about LA children's services or protecting children from abuse and neglect within their homes.

She has written a post about internet safety.

That's an important topic but right now many children are going hungry and many vulnerable and struggling families have lost their entire support networks, both professional (social services, NHS, charity support) and informal (family and friends). And most children are not in school and are not being seen for routine health appointments so the chances of the most vulnerable children falling through the gaps is greatly increased. And this is all happening at a time when a huge number of people are experiencing severe financial and mental distress.

It's a perfect storm.

The home secretary has provided a link to a page with a collection of resources for keeping children safe online. It's a useful resource but it does nothing to ensure every child has enough to eat and it doesn't tackle the biggest, most immediate threats to children's safety and wellbeing.

LangClegsInSpace · 04/06/2020 20:23

As a follow up to my previous post on no recourse to public funds (NRPF) it's worth noting that a huge proportion of people affected by this rule are frontline workers in health and social care, food production and sale, transport, security, cleaning, delivery services ...

It shouldn't even need to be pointed out that the vast, vast, vast majority of families with NRPF are BAME.

Another perfect storm.

Do black lives matter?

Do the most vulnerable black children's lives matter?

horizontilting · 04/06/2020 21:12

Actually, after declining yesterday, I now do have a question.

Because there's hardly a day goes by when this government doesn't put the boot in further to vulnerable children.

Why are you stopping free school meals vouchers over this summer holiday, at this time?

Beggars belief, the level concern for vulnerable children issuing from your department.

aquashiv · 04/06/2020 21:23

Yes I will protect all vulnerable children by never ever voting for a party whose leader doesn't pay child maintenance or even acknowledge all of his many children. Who allows the child maintenance service to further abuse and subject children to poverty by allowing partners to not provide for their children. Forget state hand outs it should be a crime to allow this.

PalmaSprings · 04/06/2020 21:52

The government is handling the situation really badly...

SpringSpringTime · 04/06/2020 21:57

Baffled as to why MN have done this. Patel has the worst reputation of any current politician. We have no faith - none - in her integrity or abilities. What on earth is the point of asking her questions.

Austriana · 04/06/2020 23:13

Why do you deport vulnerable children back to countries where they are risk?

Why don't you provide adequate protection and accommodation for the most vulnerable children in the state's care?

Why did the Tories cut funding to children's centres and family services that help the most vulnerable parents get support?

thenamesarealltaken · 04/06/2020 23:40

Hi. Yes, I realise the focus is on leaflets, web sites, lectures, etc., in relation to e-safety, etc. But, the post is also asking for ideas and suggestions on child safety. My point is, there are other very practical things that can be done to access and connect with young children who are abused, more effectively. No teacher, social worker or anyone else for that matter, never mind Priti Patel, can easily come up with a solution to help children who are abused at home for long periods. And I tried to explain that...

Of course it's not just about food. I personally only needed food, because luckily I had a good mind and a plan! Also, I wasn't let down by anyone other than my parents. I chose to stay quiet and wait until I could leave. How can anyone let you down if they know nothing? It worked for me and I stick by that decision, which I made at 7yrs old. And I know others who did the same. But now, that lifeline I had isn't there and I wish it was there for all those abused children you won't and can't know about. Without that, I couldn't have done what was best for me, as I'd not be here without the food and that's the same for others I know. Remenber the 5 year old who stole food, well all that nring highlighted only worsened the abuse. My point is that by offering them food in the holidays, saturday, and by ensuring they are able to go to clubs, etc., lproviders of those services have increased opportunity to connect with such children.

I was explaining this using my background to illustrate, ie no ability to build trust. It doesnt matter how nice and kind one seems, some abused children will not trust you or open up to you.

Its unreasonable to expect politicians to be able to address all issues of child safety without asking for ideas and suggestions, and without trying to relate to different people. I don't have all the answers, yet I was one of these children and I've highly educated myself in relation to people. I just think a few practical things would enable a better connection.

ishouldtryabiteachdayy · 05/06/2020 05:45

I thought sure starts weren't targeting the right people, but instead "middle class"'people were using them for free or low cost activities whilst on mat leave. Anyway there are still parenting programs /course running by the family support service and I have experienced one. I think the issue is getting a place is very difficult and therefore again it's going to be motivated people who seek help. It's finding and reaching those people who need it.

My feeling is this post IS for everyone because it's about online safety. I'd be interested in the click through rate on this post. Is the information being missed? Presenting something easy and quick is best. Probably presenting these kids safety videos as "advertising" on you tube would be better. It's very difficult once you tube algorithms get hold of someone your kids have watched to stop it showing that type of thing again. For example my 3 year old likes watching car animations on YouTube and then suddenly it's started on cars crashing into zombies and killing them. It's not realistic to think we do supervise kids all the time on devices, we should but it would be better to work together on gaining control.

AlovelybitofsquirrelJackie · 05/06/2020 08:11

@aquashiv and currently it is CMS policy to NOT get non paying parents to do so. So lots of schemes from government to prop up the economy but a stance taken that directly effects mainly women and children causing many to fall into debt and poverty.

RowanMumsnet · 05/06/2020 09:33

[quote Lucylou37]@RowanMumsnet sorry, I didn't tag you on previous post. Can you let us know what questions Priti will be answering, when she will be answering them and I assume she won't be picking them herself? Also, in future would it be more wise to allow the post with a live Q&A afterwards? [/quote]
Hello - it's the same deal as with webchats, but on a smaller scale (in that realistically guest posts get fewer answers than webchats, where we average around 15-20 answers). We send over a link to the thread - obviously we can't compel anyone to answer anything but we emphasise the themes that have been raised most frequently and strongly recommend that those are addressed. Beyond that it's up to the judgement of the guest.

Msmcc1212 · 05/06/2020 10:13

I truly hope that MN will be feeding back the themes honestly and not glossing over things - a core theme is clearly that there is a lack of trust and faith in the government to act with empathy, integrity and honesty and that this post looks to some of us like a very transparent PR stunt.

Msmcc1212 · 05/06/2020 10:15

thenamesarealltaken

I feel very moved, humbled and impressed when I read your story. Thank you for sharing it. Flowers

user1471500037 · 05/06/2020 13:02

Lift lockdown in its entirety - solves for vulernable children and everyone

Jason118 · 05/06/2020 13:04

@user1471500037 I think you're getting the word 'solved' mixed up with the word 'killer'. Heartless.

user1471500037 · 05/06/2020 13:39

Not at all - I am happy to accept a higher mortality rate rather than a permanent and worse re-ordering of our society. I've taken my kid back to school this week and there are fences across the playground and they are banned from playing with other children and you want that to continue in perpetuity? Lifting the lockdown would solve hundreds of social & economic problems it has created. In reality, it might not even see an uplift in deaths, if the virus has burnt itself out as some people think or look up Michael Levitt - lockdown was never that effective in preventing deaths anyway...

Jason118 · 05/06/2020 13:48

Your second post is more accurate. Trading death for socioeconomic reasons is arguable, but does reveal certain personality traits.

DDemelza · 05/06/2020 16:23

Deleting my post about the effects this Home Office's appallinf immigration policies have had on my family, my child?

Get your priorities sorted out, mumsnet. You're disgraceful

DDemelza · 05/06/2020 16:24

I have to assume you are as racist and xenophobic as the regime you are shielding from probing questions, Mumsnet.

This has made me so angry.

Gujee · 05/06/2020 17:50

Dear Home Secretary
Firstly thank you for your support, awareness campaing and funding you have done regarding Domestic Violence. During these unsettling time it has been very challenging for those in DV situations and knowing support is available and able to have safe place to go to has been very reassuring for many. Safety for children is a key when a woman who is in a DV situation and needs to escape for safety for her children and herself. The feedback I have received from someone who has used the DV services recently has been positive but there are room for improvements. Many still feel despite safety net is available somehow there are avenues for the prepatrator to still get access to the victim via using child access route. So not only this impacts the victim of DV but also the child emotionally. Manipulation and emotional blackmail was one of the feedback I received was and this was done via a child during rights for supervised access. How can these be monitored to ensure a child isn't being used to get to the victims? I was also told about the lack of awareness and understanding from some professional in particular in some ethnic groups, in particular asian communities. Many feel they are unable to escape and children are used to allow make the victims feel guilt and remain is a DV relationship. When professionals are made aware of DV, perhaps some training around the issues specific minorities may face such as emotional black mail, emotional abuse and also suppression connected to either culture and beliefs. Also if children are involved some detailed assessment perhaps as at time that can get missed. A lot more work is required around awareness of DV in local communities, obtaining support from faith groups and also educating and building awareness for children when they themself witness DV in their home what support is available for them to report or even speak to someone. Why a child feels their parent is treating them or emotionally black emailing them to get to their mum or dad to abuse what can they do? Some kids feel helpless, some feel scared and some may be forced into agreeing with the DV acts. I know a case a father encouraging his son to hit his mother when she made an error eg not cooking something in a right way. I do think DV and safety in children needs some attention to. When children are in school or with friends they may not necessarily see the significance of the DV happening at home. Now we are in lockdown, this may be a different scene many children is shock, not coping and unsure what to do. So I do feel there is another separate campaign for kids witnessing in DV at home. I do have someone who would like to share her experience re DV and impact on her Children, however was nervous to put something out on open forum. If there is any interest to listen to her feel free to contact me. Many thanks

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