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Guest post: 'I know I'll never own my home - but does renting have to be so tough on families?'

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MumsnetGuestPosts · 08/04/2014 16:39

Recently I had a go at The Great British Class Calculator. I conscientiously answered questions about salary, accommodation, social relationships and activities, and my responses placed me in the ‘Emergent Service Class’ – the second lowest ranking.

However, the researcher in me decided to try a second time - I repeated all my responses except the one about property. Rather than ticking the ‘rent’ box, I ticked ‘own’. In my mind, I chose a reasonably-sized mortgage – one that I could afford to pay - and was instantly catapulted into the second highest ranking, ‘Established Middle Class’.

It’s not that I'm clamouring to join the ranks of the middle classes, but this illustration of my perceived social ranking is just one striking way in which being a private renter limits, compromises and defines my life. The rest of this post is devoted to a few more of them.

When people learn that I rent privately rather than owning a home, there are a few typical responses. Some make me feel as though I am 'second-class' - transient and probably a bit undesirable. They inexplicably equate renting with a lack of responsibility. Others assume my status is temporary and I just haven’t got around to buying anything yet. Friends and acquaintances remind me that I really must get on the property ladder at some point, assuming buying is something I can even consider and talking to me as though I'm insisting on playing the field like some confirmed bachelorette.

I understand their concerns. They - like me- know that in many ways the life of the mortgage-holder allows for much more independence and security than that of the renter. As long as the home-owner can pay each month, the property is theirs. Not so for the private renter. Obviously I need to pay, but other issues beyond my control can affect my tenure: the landlord’s whim; their finances; their age; what the letting agent thinks, to name a few. Plus, the home-owner has a property which is truly theirs and allows the addition of simple homely touches - things like painting the walls, hanging pictures, letting their children share their lives with a pet or allowing them to record their height and age on the bedroom door frame.

And once we hit the subject of children, the limitations and compromises I mentioned earlier become much more challenging. Renting works well for students or those who want a temporary solution to their accommodation needs, but the kind of stability required for a young family is difficult to find. Some tenancies do not allow children; other properties are clearly not suitable for them. Problems with properties tolerable as a single grown-up are unacceptable as a parent.

Issues with my property that depress and embarrass me, I put up with because to move my children based on superficialities or inconvenience would be selfish. However, when things go wrong and a new property is required, the practical and emotional impact can be enormous and repeated. Research suggests that in 2012-13, families who rented privately were 9 times more likely to have moved than home-owners. Whilst moving is stressful for everyone, those in private rented accommodation seem to suffer it rather more frequently.

In addition, families are increasingly being forced into moves with their young children because some landlords and agents are putting up rents to an unmanageable level after an initial 6 month contract or other fixed-term period. As the housing charity Shelter has highlighted, large numbers are being evicted as a result of asking their landlords to make necessary repairs to their properties.

Moving home with children of school age is problematic on a number of levels. For my children it was awful. They were uprooted from the safety and security of the school and friends they had known for 5 years. There were tears and anxieties and a lot of genuine sadness. On a practical level, placing three children at the same primary school was impossible. We are currently managing drop offs and pick ups at two different schools without a car and it's not easy.

Local Education Authority procedures for helping place children in a new area are frustrating. I couldn't have access to a list of schools with available places and I couldn't apply for school places without a firm new address in the area. It was the property finding equivalent of Pin the Tail on the Donkey. Added to this mix was the fact that my eldest is moving on to secondary school in September and places had already been allocated, so we had to leave that decision to fate.

It was a stressful time, but it could have been much worse. I might have had each child in a different school. I might have been managing this without a partner to share the load. I might be one if the many who are finding themselves needing to go through this sorry process time and time again, aware of the terrible toll it takes on the confidence, security and education of their children and finding themselves powerless to avoid it.

There are lots of issues that need to be addressed in the UK private renting sector: lack of security for families; insufficiently regulated rents; a demand which far outstrips supply; inadequate procedures for dealing with ‘bad’ landlords, and last but not least, an overarching social belief that having a mortgage is inherently ‘better’ than renting a property.

Families in privately rented accommodation need security of tenure to encourage them to become full members of the community and to allow their children continuity in terms of education and relationships. At the very least this should be reflected in longer tenancy periods, the regulation of private rents and and maintenance of registers of 'rogue' landlords as Shelter’s campaign recommends. Ultimately, we can’t get away from the fact that our country really needs more houses, and a lifting of the cap on local council building would allow for this.

The private rental sector needs to be fair and less precarious for all, but particularly for young families. Politicians should stand up for the 9 million renters, acknowledge their concerns and fully commit to improving the situation for them.

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expatinscotland · 08/04/2014 21:16

'But don't knock the flexibility. And I'm not convinced that moving home is bad for children, if they can stay at the same school.'

When that is oftentimes not the case. Plus, it is legal for landlords to state, 'No children'.

expatinscotland · 08/04/2014 21:19

I'm continually amazed by peoples' experiences with letting agents on here, particularly the willy-nilly fees for printing another tenancy agreement and 'admin' fees.

expatinscotland · 08/04/2014 21:21

Labour, I mean, c'mon, look at the leadership in the party. Ed Milliband. A Johnny-Come-Lately who stabbed his own brother in the back. About as reliable and trustworthy as a pissed off King Cobra.

fielsted · 08/04/2014 21:27

Dinosaursareextinct-yes, you are quite right that there can be advantages to renting over owning. I know a lot of people who own but are trapped by negative equity or just not being able to sell as you describe so I would not want to suggest that those who own do not have difficulties too.

Viviennemary · 08/04/2014 21:36

Labour did absolutely nothing to solve the housing crisis. Many many young people and not so young people can't afford to buy or even rent. I don't think rent controls will solve the problem. Because if there is a housing shortage that will not be solved by rent controls. And people with mortgages face enormous difficulty too.

expatinscotland · 08/04/2014 21:40

Of course Labour did nothing. They all have a vested interest in propagating over-inflated housing prices and many in government are BTL landlords.

It's a Ponzi scheme.

JaneinReading · 08/04/2014 21:57

I am older. I can remember (just) the Rent Act days when tenancies were for life and once the tenant was in they could stay forever at rents which were ludicrously low - £10 a year etc. There was virtually no property to rent. Then assured shortholds came in which meant for the first time in years a landlord could if the property notice were served and if necessary a court order obtained remove the tenant at the end of the term or if they did not pay the rent. Suddenly there were properties to rent again. It was better. It is not perfect but it is better as even when there were these rent act tenancies but hardly any properties to rent there were virtually none available from the local council either so people slept on floors on with parents.

Many of us have been all 3 options - tenants and landlords and houseowners and understand the problems of all sides. Most landlords have 1 or at most 2 properties,. Many have had to move for work but cannot sell their property or cannot afford to live in it and do not make a profit after their costs are factored in. My daughter cannot afford to live in her flat and the rent just about equals the costs not including the £2k on a new boiler last year etc etc.

What is possible is long term lettings under English law. There is nothing to stop a landlord agreeing that and a few do. However many tenants do not want to commit themselves for 5 or 10 years to one place in case their circumstances change and conversely landlords often may not want that either as they may move jobs and want to sell the property to buy somewhere for themselves to live in.

So I don't think rent control is the answer or mandatory 5 year tenancies on both sides. Interest rates on savings are dire at present and some UK investors have been buying blocks of hundreds of flats in places abroad where companies let under the systems abroad mentioned above as a good long term investment with a higher rental yield than UK landlords achieve. We don't yet in the UK have many companies investing in residential properties but that might change if prices are rising. I saw in today's papers that some investors have recently moved into the market for short term funding for bridging finance which the banks have been obliged to move out of so perhaps change is afoot. Amusingly the desire to invest in what many tenants will want - pension funds investing in very long term lettings to solid tenants in good jobs with high pay is only there because house prices are rising. If they were not that move to invest in those lettings would not occur.

CoilRegret · 08/04/2014 22:45

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fielsted · 08/04/2014 22:52

CoilRegret-please don't feel offended I am well aware that there are excellent landlords and I tried hard to steer away from generalisations in this post. Good on you for providing a safe and secure environment for your tenants.

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expatinscotland · 08/04/2014 23:18

Most Americans are here on work-sponsored visas or student visas. They are not entitled to housing benefit or any public funds on such visas.

Work-sponsored visas are sometimes only for one year at a time but some, such as for visiting academics, will be for only a few months.

Student visas for postgrads, it depends. One year for a master's, possibly two, and longer for PhD.

CoilRegret · 08/04/2014 23:19

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expatinscotland · 08/04/2014 23:22

No one here has referred to landlords as shit. I just think the system, particularly when it comes to LA's needs to change.

We saw A LOT of 'No children'.

And God help whoever is on even partial housing benefit/LHA! 80% of those claiming, btw, are in work.

expatinscotland · 08/04/2014 23:24

Had they a spouse? There are not really many ways for them to legally be here otherwise as, not being a Commonwealth nation, cannot come by ancestry right or working holiday maker unless they are quite, quite wealthy. Some have an artist visa, but again, this is very limited.

I came as a spouse myself. The visa looked a lot different then, a dozen years ago, and was far easier to get than it is now and cheaper (I have been naturalised for some years so no longer have issues like this).

CoilRegret · 08/04/2014 23:26

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expatinscotland · 08/04/2014 23:38

Yes, wealth is a great workround in every country. Wink

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expatinscotland · 09/04/2014 00:15

Not on this thread. I call lots of people shits. I call myself a fud often enough. And never namechange.

My favourite, however, is when someone posts about their partner, who is a classic cocklodger.

timefliesby · 09/04/2014 00:22

I remember once being a guest at a house in Germany. The woman was in her 60s? She had rented the house for decades...decorated it, brought children up in it. The rental market is very different in other countries. Perhaps we need to look at how they do it.

SweetCarolinePomPomPom · 09/04/2014 04:21

Years ago there would have been a noticeable difference in the socio-economic status and educational levels of owner occupiers v. renters. Especially when long term council tenants started to buy their houses at a discount, it most people still renting long term did tend to be in the lower socio-economic groups.

But that was then and this is now - different times altogether. They need to update and adjust their measurement criteria - they sound woefully out of touch.

feelingdizzy · 09/04/2014 07:34

Due to work I have had to move from my own home,which I'm renting out into a rental home.It has been an eye opening experience,firstly I have been struck by how hard it is the ridiculous amount of information they need,and how you have to prove yourself.
I am lucky have good credit,have massive deposit required and don't need to use housing benefit.I cant imagine how hard it would be without these things.
What I am struck by is that I do feel that I am in someone else house and cant add little touches,or paint etc.I really want the people who have rented my house to make it their home,they asked me if they could put up pictures.Ofcourse you can its your home!

ChunkyPickle · 09/04/2014 09:01

feelingdizzy - I am in the same situation as you - I got the yearly report from my tenant recently and felt so embarrassed - they've made the place beautiful! I want to have them move into where ever I live to do a similar job because I have no talents at all in that area!

I'm renting at the moment, and I actually rather think that it's the agents who are the biggest problems - silly fees for a photocopied contract (when a rolling contract would be totally legal...), not informing landlords (or not pushing hard enough) about maintenance issues etc.

My previous agents were awesome - I trusted their opinions, they were responsive, they were fair, they told me if something needed to be done and nagged me if it didn't get done. Then they were bought out by a big chain and I have no faith that the tenants are going to be getting the service I would like to be giving them - I may have to start managing the property myself because I have so little confidence in the new set.

BreakingDad77 · 09/04/2014 09:10

We need to bring in the possibility of long term rents like you get in Europe where ownership isn't the same.

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