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andrewmick · 04/02/2010 12:19

Hi,

I am a brand new father with a beautiful baby boy who is a few weeks old. I have been back to work early because I am self employed so my early days with him were limited. The problem I have is that my well meaning but interfering MIL has tried to visit almost everyday since he was born...even 'popping in' on a day when I specifically asked for no visitors so I could spend some time with my wife and son. As it turns out she came at the same time as our first midwife appointment and I was furious.

I am finding this constant badgering really hard because as someone else said on here, I love the endless days with my son when we have no plans and can just relax with him, before I have to go off to work again (there is no paternity help I can get as far as I am aware so I have to work).

I think it is really unfair that someone can interfere in this way as my wife and I really want to manage as much as we can on our own, and ask for help when we need it not have it everyday. I don't know the best way to handle this as normally I have a good relationship with her and do not want to cause a strain within my own family.

Any help would be much appreciated!

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newpup · 04/02/2010 12:59

You need to talk to your wife and explain how you feel. Perhaps she could suggest that her mum only comes when you are at work as she has plenty of help when you are home.

A lot of new parents have this problem with well meaning but over bearing grandparents. Especially if this is a first grandchild.

Hope you sort it out and congratulations on your new son!

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