bewieldered

[shinesun]

my son fell out with a builder now i am forbidden to have anything to do with the builders wife whom i have been friends all my life as i have grown up with her, and if i have anything to do with her, i am not welcome at my sons house.....the family home i worked hard to make it possible for him to own and live there with his wife.

What do you good people think?

am i being unreasonable to fill upset?

Shinesun

my son fell out with a builder now i am forbidden to have anything to do with the builders wife whom i have been friends all my life as i have grown up with her, and if i have anything to do with her, i am not welcome at my sons house.....the family home i worked hard to make it possible for him to own and live there with his wife.

What do you good people think?

am i being unreasonable to fill upset?

Shinesun

What gives your son the right to tell you who you can be friends with?

I think it is totally unfair of him to expect you to cut ties with a friend. The only situation where I think this might be understandable would be if he considered his children might come to some harm as a result of that friendship.

What did they argue about?

I think your son is totally out of order! He is being very controlling by giving you this ultimatum. You are free to choose your own friends! Good heavens!

they argued about some building project, my son didnt have any contract, and guy paid him a reasonable amount for the job he did, but my son thought he should have been paid more.

there is no question of children coming to harm, i am now not allowed to go and see my grand ,childred and if i do i wont be allowed to have anything to do with my friend.
Thank you for your reply, i feel at last there is someone listening to me.

I am so sorry for you what a horrible position to be in. Your son should be ashamed of himself for dragging you into his arguments. I hope it all works out for you.

He is your son and you should not be dancing to his tune. He has a problem with someone - he shouldn't bring you in to it.

thank you all so much for your support.

How ridiculous your son is being. Of course you should see your friend.

Do you have anyone who could act as a mediator, a pastor or someone your son would listen to?

Cutting off contact to the grandchildren is only acceptable if they are in physical or emotional danger, imo. Not because your son is in a huff.