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Carleajam · 30/04/2026 21:19

I am just here to vent a few emotions that I have been feeling recently. I am a fairly new grandparent. My son and his wife have a beautiful daughter who I help look after one day a week.

I live about an hour away but I travel to their house to look after her. I love looking after her and always mention that im here to help with baby sitting when ever they need it. Unfortunately the other grandma always seems to get asked first. Also they seem to spend much more time with her but never seem to have time to visit me. I feel the relationship is one sided and if I didn't baby sit I don't think I would ever see my grand daughter. I don't want to rock the boat by saying how I feel but it sometimes really hurts me.

They are going on holiday next week with the other grandma in tow. Again I just get told I can visit them before they go away but they never make the effort to come and see me. I realise the distance is an issue but a visit once in a blue moon would be better than never. Maybe times have changed but when I was younger I always visited my parents every week and they would also come to mine. I feel I am just being used for baby sitting.

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Chumpingtonquinces · 30/04/2026 21:26

What happens when you invite them to yours for the day/weekend? Can you look for a lovely event that they would be interested in and arrange for you all to go together? Do you share interests with them apart from DGC? Is your home and garden a good space for them to visit with DGC and safe so they can not be too worried? It must be very hard to experience this imbalance but Ihope you can find ways to see them equally OP. I wouldn’t say you feel it’s unfair, just try to make it happen by positively engaging.

Carleajam · 30/04/2026 21:33

They have come round when invited but it's never been on their own back.

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