Hi,
So my mil reads messages and then doesn't answer.
I end up days later getting annoyed as there's no polite, I'll get back to you or acknowledgement. I send photos of the children... No acknowledgement. If I ask her out -and if she doesn't want to go there or she's weighing up her options then again, no acknowledgement. It's really annoying.
I no longer send many photos as why would I send things when somebody rudely doesn't even give an acknowledgement text. Not asking for a thank you, but a hope they had fun, or I love their party jumper for school would be nice.
I've given 3 dates we are available for a meet up. this holiday and nothing. Its annoying as I don't get many days off so I don't want to miss out on events until she decides what she's doing. It's as if her time, is worth more than ours. I find it v rude that there's not even, a can I let you know by x.
How would you build on this positively as my resentment is building? I'm now at the point I'm going to stop texting.
For reference she's retired, on her own but a full social calendar and is always saying she doesn't see the kids enough! Unfortunately we both work full time and weekends are split between 3 sets of grandparents (she won't attend if other grandparents come), kids swimming and dancing classes, homework, housework, food shop and pulling round for the next week. If she helped out like mum she'd have more time! But she's gran not a babysitter which is absolutely fine but she has to accept then the time we have is limited! I don't include my mum's time she takes care of the kids as her time - as it give the impression she's just childcare and she's not!
Kids all have autism so we plan ahead rather than on the day. She's only aware 1 out of 3 are autistic as we've not told her about the other 2 (high maskers) as she believes 'we are all a bit autistic' which is not true and invalidating.
Thank you - I'd like a good relationship but I'm struggling to understand her.