Grand parenting Dilemma

[sunny2468]

Hello

my dilemma is that I’ve recently got over a nasty bout of Covid and then caught Norovirus a few days after from my daughter’s family who had returned from abroad. I’m immune compromised and work 3 days a week and look after GDs on a regular basis every week on non work days. Eldest has been sent home from school today with a high temperature and feeling unwell. She was with us yesterday so maybe I’ve picked it up- time will tell.
My daughter can work from home which she is doing atm but i know tomorrow she will expect me to look after her daughter if she’s off school. I’ll already have the younger one. I don’t feel considered in these situations but I don’t like to let them down. My daughter is being awful about GD saying how she can never do what she wants as there’s always someone ill.
yes I know she’s selfish and unreasonable and I’d like to say this but I don’t want to fall out. Thoughts please.

Oh i totally sympathise op.
I gave a daughter, we look after our grandchild ( who i love dearly and want to be involved with) and feel totally taken for granted at times. My husband and I are late 60's and find the days very tiring. But I never complain because we adore our grandchild. I would like to be shown some gratitude sometimes though and we are quite often criticised.

You on your own and immune compromised, I do think she should be thinking more of your needs. But I totally understand your fear of falling out with your daughter. I'm the same. I regret not laying down firmer ground rules at the beginning. And frankly, I'm disappointed at my daughter's attitude.
I suppose I haven't offered any advice, just sympathy.