I live abroad but still keep a house in the U.K. which I visit about 3 times a year. I am 71 with blood cancer and tire very quickly. I have always done a Christmas meal last time for 7 adults, 2 teenage grandchildren and 3 young grandchildren and it stressed me out and I was shattered. I told my children in September that this Christmas I would not be cooking and they can sort out Christmas meal between them. Well no one said anything until 3 days before Christmas when my daughter invited me and my husband for the meal. I sent a message to my son about the invite and now he won’t talk to me. He says I didn’t visit him on Christmas Day to give his children presents even though I said I would call round Christmas Eve with them and he said he would be out with friends. He wasn’t because my iPhone can see where he is. Dilemma do I speak to him or wait until he comes to me. He has sent a long message saying he doesn’t feel as if I treat him as family. What do I do?