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Grandparents emigrating

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AdeptSheep · 10/12/2024 18:04

My children are 3 and 4. My parents have decided to move a 12 hour flight away for a better lifestyle and climate. They are taking my 85 year old grandmother with them. We have no other family around us. Part of me is happy for them, they’ve raised their family and now want to do what they want. But part of me feels we’re second to good weather. We have never needed them for child care as I am a stay at home mum. I’m so upset that they won’t have a day to day connection with my children. Family is important to me and I feel let down and sad for my children. No idea what we would do in an emergency. I thought they would love being grandparents and be really involved. But it seems not.

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whenemmafallsinlove · 24/12/2024 17:37

Well I'm sure there is a school of thought that says they can do what they like but in your place I would also be furious and upset. Clearly they aren't that bothered about your kids. Well screw them, when they need you you'll know what to think. Very much a case of reap what you sow.

Katherineryan1986 · 09/02/2025 15:25

@AdeptSheep I'm really sorry your parents have chosen to move away and I can understand how you feel.

My husband and I had plans to live abroad for months over the UK winter, however, grandchildren arrived and no there is no way we would move away from them. We do realise that our children could move away from us in the future, but obviously we hope not.

I think your parents will really miss you and your family.

Dogsbreath7 · 10/02/2025 08:21

Are they from that country originally? Have they expressed this before? At their age I would be concerned about access to healthcare irrespective of your DC.

I don’t think I agree with how you have phrased the problem- you are upset your parents won’t have day2day connection with children.

I would be sad that your DC will miss out on close family in their lives.

but it’s not the end of the world- plenty of horror stories on MN and it isn’t unusual for adult children to move away and even 4hrs distance in UK restricts any meaningful relationship.

looks like you will get some cheap holidays in the future on the positive side…

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