Hi everyone
my son and his ex gf have a toddler (2 and half) and my son has moved back home with me and my other son (adult). My son has his son weekends usually Friday night Saturday and Sunday till afternoon. But his ex has started making my son ( she’s uses the you can’t ever see him again if you don’t have him tactics) have his son more and more during the week and expecting him to take time off work to have him and the days her mum and dad have the little one now are my son having him.
I have spoke to the ex and asked her if it could just be what was originally arranged as I am finding it very hard having the little one here more and more as my son isn’t really pulling his weight and I’m finding I am having to parent them both and look after my grandson which I don’t mind but he is at that terrible two stage and I am struggling and no one is listening when I say it’s too much.
when my grandson comes here after being with his mum and other nan and grandad he is so hyped up on sweets and cakes and not sleeping. So I try my hardest to get him into a routine but it’s so difficult, he is so very destructive, bites punches headbutts kicks and breaks things he will refuse to eat anything other than sweets and crisp and cakes ( I refuse to let him have any goodies until he’s been good) I’ve been potty training him on his mums orders and he is coming back from his mums saying piss shit dick etc. every weekend there is food trips into all my carpets things broken and also his mum doesn’t send him with a ba with change of clothes or anything not even a spare nappy.
my son doesn’t see a problem but then he’s not excatly looking after his son I am and I feel like I’m being out of order by asking my son to refuse any extra days, as I need a break.
also everytime we have something planned with myself and having visitors the mum will make sure that we are having my grandson even if I’ve asked if we don’t.
am I being out of line for wanting a break?