Hey, looking some advice.
my Husband and I work full time, we are very lucky to have my MIL close by to pick up my oldest children from school Monday- Thursday and keep them until 5pm. She enjoys doing this and we are always grateful and show her this in many ways by cooking meals, gifts as she won’t take money.
She and my FIL are deeply religious and we always respect this. mil has found out recently that we drink alcohol on occasion she heard it from the children playing ( it is normalised at home for the kids and only ever wine with dinner noting heavy)
she announced that she was heartbroken by this and that the distress of knowing what we could be leading her grandchildren to in future years is breaking her heart. She hinted at having a mental breakdown about it. Also said that if FIL found out it would cause another heart attack and kill him.
we had a polite conversation saying that we felt her reaction was catastrophic to the concern, expressed concern for her mental health and reassured her that we are by know means over indulging in alcohol. We apologised that she felt so hurt but that we wouldn’t be changing our behaviours and that we want our children to be taught how to drink responsibly and be comfortable discussing their nights out or if they get in trouble they will lift the phone to us for help in future rather than try and hide it from us.
anyways a few days have past she’s talking to us but it’s very stiff and difficult (on her side)
I am hurt at her behaviour and don’t know how to stop it snowballing into a argument that ultimately effects our relationship.