Hi, looking for some advise pls. Despite trying my hardest my adult son and I are now estranged which deeply saddens me as he is my only child. He was a very difficult teen but I was always there for him. He left home aged 23 to live with his girlfriend and at first all was well. Then they split up & he moved around a lot constantly refusing to give me his new address but we kept in touch by phone & he sometimes popped in for 5 minutes. The years went by with little contact despite my efforts. Just over a year ago (he’s 29 at this point) I heard through the grapevine he’d had a baby girl, my first grandchild. I was thrilled but shocked to find out this way as my son certainly had not told me. Nevertheless I sent him a text congratulating him. He was furious I had found out & wanted to know who had told me. Then he blocked me. The Mum also blocked me. I still don’t know what provoked such a reaction. Anyway I hired a private detective to try & track him down & was eventually given his latest address. I went round there & knocked on the door. My son opened the door, swore at me, then slammed the door in my face. Last month I found out through the grapevine again, that he’s had another daughter. I sent a congratulations card to his address as still blocked on phone. No response. He turned 30 this week. Sent a card & present in the post. No response. So I now have 2 granddaughters I’ve never met & a son who doesn’t want to know me. It tortures me daily & I swing between berating myself that I must have done something wrong, to trying to accept the situation. I would dearly love to meet my granddaughters but don’t know what to do. What would you do?? Any advice appreciated.