I used to post here over 18 years ago as a pregnant mum! I can’t even quite believe I’m posting on the gransnet section and hoping once again to connect to women who understand me, my current experiences and can offer mutual support and a laugh along the way.
dd is pg. she is 23 and mentally very vulnerable. She has a history of poor relationships and was at the end of one, suicidal and on the rebound and is pg 3 months in. He is lovely, 10 years older, working, in a house share, and has ASD. (Blue badge and pip so has a significant impact).
Not easy, right?! She is on Ads. She can’t stay with us with a baby (we rent) so is looking to move in with him, hoping to get rehoused by the council and they want the baby. In the past few years her focus has been her career (ophthalmology) which she has I’ll have to put on hold. (Year 2 of 3).
im worried sick about her mental health and how they will both cope. I have a son with diagnosed ASD and one we suspect not diagnosed. I don’t want to judge his ability to parent but recognise it is going to present extra challenges. My daughter has been at breaking point many times already, after a shitty relationship a few years ago that destroyed her self esteem.
it really is a mess! I’m trying to signpost her as much as I can, but I cannot parent this child, and any advice very welcome.