Interested in reply’s from paternal grandmas…..
After reading many posts on here about the horrid paternal grandmas,
I have tried very hard to do everything the way the mums on here would want it to be done. I haven’t interfered, been intrusive, asked any questions. I haven’t asked to hold my new born grand child and I haven’t worn any perfume when visiting. Only visited my sons house once, (when invited as I had £100’s gifts from paternal family ) stayed just over an hour, so not out stay my welcome.
Hopefully this will have kept my daughter in law happy, as from what I can see, she displays coercive controlling behaviours. My son doesn’t see this, and defends her behaviours and worships her.
What is so sad, is that I can’t ever see me having an attachment to the child, or being part of the child’s life. I live a few hours drive away from them. They will very rarely visit me. Latterly, because of covid rules, I have barely seen my son, although message a few times in the week. Obviously things have opened up now, but if they go visiting, staying over for a few days, it’s to the maternal family.
I am so disappointed it this way, but do I just accept that this is how it is, and for my own self preservation, let them get on with their lives with little or no paternal family input. 😥