Daughter returns to family home with child

[Agyness]

Hi, happily married after divorce - only problem is my partners daughter has decided to relocate from South Africa after ten years and live with us! Three year old daughter in tow - her partner to relocate after she has earned £18.6K pro rata for nine months so that he may obtain a working visa here. I advised her to get Universal Credit etc but now I fear it is so comfortable for her she is not going to bother to get a job until September - six months after she arrived at our home so that she can have a month holiday in August with her friends. We have bought her a car and I suggest she spends about £300 on food and provisions each month but now feel I should have motivated her monetarily to move on and set up home independent of us. What do you think?

Hello You are in a bit of a difficult position here because she is your partners daughter. We are now at the start of August, perhaps time to sit her down and find out her plans for the next year. I assume if she is planing on getting a job with that sort of pay, you will be expected to be the child care. Tell her you want to make plans, holidays, voluntary work or something like and ask her to to explain how she intends to go about moving forward. She does sound like she is getting very comfy, did you ask her what exactly she is having a holiday from? What does your partner think about this ?