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Idiotic grandmother

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Anu4321 · 09/09/2017 04:54

I had to come and live with my father's sister as I had to come and do my masters here. My father's mother died a few years ago but her eldest sister is still alive and is living near the place I am staying. Recently fee fell ill and had to be shifted to our place as she never married for whatever reason. My father never liked her much anyway. Soon I realized why. But I never had a lot of interaction with her before now. She has a problem with everything I do everything I say. And according to her I know nothing at all. She treats me as a piece of shit. She one day asked to take her to toilet and I did and she started screaming on me because I was helping her get down (she told me to do so and yes I take care of my maternal grandmother who has Parkinson's plus).if she tells me something she has to screem on me as if everything is my fault. One day I had to keep the read newspapers out in the stack and she started screaming on me that I had not arranged it in date wise order. They were all read and just because I did not keep them in date wise order she started insulting me that I will never get a job I am good for nothing and this kind of a shit. I am telling my father this but he is saying try and adjust but one fine day she will get a earfull from me and I guess my aunt will throw me out I don't know what to do

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MissBabbs · 09/09/2017 05:55

Can you make an excuse to be out of the house. And hide in the local library or Starbucks or similar. Presumably you are studying through the day.

AlphaStation · 09/09/2017 06:01

Why don't you rent a room somewhere else? Even share a room with some other student sounds a lot better. Surely this can't be the last room available in the little town in question, wherever it is? She's set in her way, and you will probably pack your bags and leave quite soon, so in that way there is no need for her to throw you out. She probably finds that you should put up 100 per cent with her ways in exchange for not having to pay for your room or bed (if that's the case).

Atenco · 09/09/2017 06:25

Can you not talk to your aunt about this? If you leave I presume your aunt will be left doing everything, so it sounds like it would suit her for you to stay.

Anu4321 · 09/09/2017 06:48

My dad wanted me to stay here I always wanted to be in a flat nearby with a bunch of friends. My aunt is sweet but she doesn't like misbehavior. Most of the time she also gets irritated by her behavior but she is still taking care of grandmother. The moment I am out for a long time I get a phone call asking where am i and why am I coming back. I would gladly leave this place if given a chance. I can't even study because of here

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Anu4321 · 09/09/2017 06:50

My aunt does a lot of work and she will need help but she is getting on to my head. My maternal grandmother has been ill for the past 3 years but she never behaved like this I have taking care of her to and never felt that disturbed

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Atenco · 09/09/2017 14:46

What is stopping you moving out? Finances?

Beeziekn33ze · 04/02/2018 13:03

Confused - she's not anyone's grandmother is she but actually your father's aunt? Does she have any dementia, it sounds possible.
You could either move out and stay with friends in a flat or stay put. If you stay put make it clear to your aunt that 'the demands of your course' mean you will often be late back, there is no need for her to phone you. Or get her to text which is less annoying.

grannybiker · 11/05/2022 21:43

Sounds like dementia - sorry.
My Mum would have been the same about newspapers in order. She used to buy the TV guide just so she knew what day it was. We found the less we became embroiled in the insignificant, the easier life was and the less Mum was distressed

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