Babysitting

[mymilisbatshit]

Is there a difference between asking to see a child and then begging to babysit to the point you'll do almost anything to get mum out the picture just so you can have the child all to yourself.

Anyone else find this creepy or just me? Why isn't just seeing the child enough?

Hmm, I think it can be creepy, my ex MIL was a bit like this and it really pissed me off and she became so rude and aggressive towards me in her pursuit of it that I stopped her having my ds altogether. That said as the kids have got older and she has had more grandchildren she's calmed right down so I let my eldest go and stay with her now sometimes and they have a great relationship. I do think that children and grandparents have a right to a relationship that's isn't conducted under supervision of the parents. Relationships develop differently if the parents are always hovering.

My DC is under 1 year old does that matter?

YEP my Mil is like this - we can take DC there all week but if we are they dont feel they have had a proper visit.

My mil has also shown time and time again she does things her way, her eyes glazed over once when i said I did not want her to push DC on the potty, so you can see why she would want us - me out the way

Creepy.

MIL once called SIL to invite nieces for lunch. When SIL turned up with nieces MIL let the children in then blocked the doorway and told SIL to come back and collect her DDs at X time.

SIL went home and cried, BIL said nothing to his bloody horrible mother.

Does your DH stand up for you?

My view is that it's important for DC to develop a relationship with their Grandparents. I don't agree that this needs to be done without the parents there.

I had great relationships with my GPs, at no time did they ever have us overnight without our parents.

My DC like having sleepovers with one set of GPs but not the other.

I do my best to ensure that those GPs aren't aware of/hurt by this but I also won't send my DC where they aren't happy just to keep the peace.