Help for mum (and sister)

[Scottishdancer]

My mum is 80 and is virually blind due to damage at the back of her eyes from high blood pressure.This has been a gradual process due to her reluctance to have her yes tested and denial of the problem. But it has suddenly hit her that she really can't see and she has become really depressed and anxious. We are not sure if she has the beginnings of dementia of whether it is severe depression, but she has become very confused and although she lives with my dad wants to spend every waking moment at my sisters house. She phones her as soon as she wakes in the morning and throughout the day until my sister says she can go up there. As soon as she gets home in the evening she phones up and says she is lonely.My sister has a five year old son and is finding it increasinly stressful and I live too far away to help. She won't have a home help or go to my brothers house or speak to me on the phone, all she wants is to be at my sisters and wont consider anything else.

How sad for you all, whats she like when she gets to your sisters? Could your Dsis get her to the gp's for an assessment '& maybe a mild anti anxiety med?

Very confused. She can't understand why she can't seeand why the optician won't give her some new glasses. We have explained it countless times but she just can't undertand. Dr has oferred help but she doesn't want it and so far has refused anti depressants. I am worried for my sister as if she goes out even for a couple of hours mum is continually ringing her asking when she will be back, and the other day when my sisters friend came round mum shouted at her for having visitors when she is there.