inspired from a thread about what makes a good mil.
I would love to know. I had a great relationship with my mil (well, I thought so, I hope she did) until I had dc.
Since then it has gone downhill. I find her so critical of how we parent and I find them so pushy about seeing the dc that it leaves so little time to do anything as a family of four or see my own parents. They do not seem to respect our right to do as we want without their judgement which means dh has shut down from communicating anything at all with them (since teenagehood really)which I know dmil finds very upsetting. I have tried to bridge the gap over the years but when I'm irritated, find I am less prepared to.
I recognise that I am half of the dil/mil relationship and I must do things she hates too. I would like to recover our relationship for the sake of dh and my dc, and for me and her as well. I am prepared to make some changes and see how they work.
Any advice on what mils like from dils would be appreciated.
Thank you!