My dad and I have always had a rocky relationship and more downs than ups, yet my son adores him and looks forward to spending time with him, with up until recently was a daily occurance.
However when my partner moved in with me and my son I asked my dad to take a step back and allow my son and partner to be able to foem a good relationship, which they have even though my dad hasn't exactly carried out my wishes.
He has manipulated my son in numerous ways and I am beginning to think I can't leave them alone together as my dad uses my son as a weapin and source of behind closed doors gossip.
He is clearly struggling to accept the fact that I am no longer his meal ticket as I have been for a long time and in the last couple of months things have gotten worse.
I dont particularly have much time for my dad, too much history and far too complicated to explain however I am aware that he and my son have a close bond as do my son and partner.
My partner doesn't want my dad in the house at all yet I can't help feeling that my son needs the relationship with my dad even if it is to only be able form an educated opinion on his grandad later in life.
My question is how do I allow my son to see his grandad, while keeping the peace at home and not allowing it to affect the family unit we able building?