What's it like for you?
I sometimes feel like i don't exist - especially when, for example DIL when skyping us and i am clearly shown on the computer screen sitting next to OH and she says "show grandad this" or Grandad's house - i live here too......Or when the g'kids say their granny died, this was before they were born and i have been around since they were born. I want them know about her and i talk about her and say to them but now i'm married to grandad so i'm granddad's wife and these kind of things happen to people and families.
Oh well, i tell myself that I am very much in their lives - even if they don't call me granny or, like my DIL, acknowledge me