Favouritism

[blahblah1969]

Hi all, just looking for advise about my daughter and mother's behaviour. My mother very obviously favours my son and only has good things to say to him and about him, even when he's behaved badly. She is the opposite with my daughter, which makes her behaviour worse, because it gets a reaction from my mother. My daughter is very aware that my son is the favourite and thinks the only way to get her grans attention, even if it's negative, is to behave badly. I don't know what to do to make the situation better. Any ideas?

This could very easily cause resentment between your children. If it was me I would nip it in the bud as quickly as possible. Could you have a chat with your mum about it explaining how it's making your daughter feel? It's possible your mother doesn't even know she's doing it! The sooner it's dealt with, the sooner relationships can be repaired. Good luck!

Thank you. You're right, my mother doesn't know she's doing it. I have chatted to her, but she doesn't think she's doing anything wrong. The good news is that she's just with us on holiday for 3 weeks and she only has 4 more days with us! It's a shame that my daughter now doesn't like her though.