"Why can't people be more supportive on this site having a gifted child is NOT a great thing it is very difficult"
Why can't parents accept that gifted children are all different?
Some find being gifted very difficult, others do not. Some combine giftedness with great social skills and an interest in people which means any social situation is going to be interesting to them, regardless of whether it involves their intellectual side or not. Just as some intellectually gifted children are also highly musical and others are not.
Others need to be stimulated through this one thing that is their intellectual side. There is no such thing as the gifted child; they all have their own personalities.
The same holds true at the other end of the educational scale: as a university teacher I have come across a smallish number of students who have been well and truly gifted= on a totally different level from everybody else, including their tutors. But they have had vastly varying personalities: some have been socially awkward, come across as geeky, or very sensitive and withdrawn. Others have come across as your typical, pretty, funloving undergraduate until I looked at their work and then- phhew! There just isn't a way you can look at somebody in a social situation and evaluate how gifted they are.
Some highly gifted people have Aspergers traits, others do not. Some people have Aspergers traits but are not highly gifted. The difference is that if you are gifted, any difficulties are likely to be ascribed to giftedness, but if you are of average intelligence and have Aspergers, noone is going to say your average intelligence is due to your having Aspergers.
Obviously websites in support of gifted children are going to be skewed in the direction of a certain type of child: parents of the kind of child who can self-stimulate and does well socially are unlikely to feel the need to contact a support group, however brilliant the child actually is.
I think we should all support each other, by pointing out that gifted children like other children need their individual needs met.
This is not being negative: one might equally say that stating categorically that all gifted children have problems is being negative towards children who do not.
If parents of gifted and struggling children want others to be supportive, perhaps they should try being supportive of other parents, such as parents of non-gifted and struggling children and parents of gifted but non-struggling children. Not hinting that only children who fit a certain mould can be gifted. But if they think a parent is unsupportive just because they point out that their own gifted child does not fit this description, then they are in essence saying that only their child is "right".