Hi!

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Am not from an english speaking country so sorry for my poor language. However, my daughter have recently become 4. She a normal 4 year old but she is learning very fast. She start reading when was 3,5 but she is not reading books and she only reads when she wants to. Never when any one ask for it, is there someone who recognise that? She have learn almost by herself, I have only learn her to write her name and give her toys, like a child laptop and computer games . This we use only a few times in month. We spend all of our free time outside and playing and in the pool. She is also start swiming when she was 3.

She does´nt like reading as much as she like writing. How should I do to make the best of her potential? She is demanding more and more and she is totaly wild, but yesterday I sat down with her and play games and learn her things and she became so calm.

This make me think that she is not getting any things out of kindergarden, because she is all wild after kindergarden. In our country there is no formal education until 6 year old. They can start with letters and numbers before in kindergarden but when I ask for more learning for her they only says that there education is not for learning children to read and that it is not there working task to do that.

I have been googling gifted children and I wondering what reading fluently means? Does it means that the chid reads books with long sentences or only short words?

Hi,

may I ask what country are in you?

Reading fluently means reading books with short sentances. If your daughter can do this without anyone teaching her, then she is advanced for her age in my opinion.

It's more normal for a four year old to be able to read short words.

Swimming independently at age three is also unusual.

If she calms down when you sit down with her and teach her things and play games then i think that is your answer!

From sweden.

I have never try to make her read short sentences. So I don´t know. Maybe I should try it. But as I write in my first text so she refuse to do anything if I ask her to. But she has never read more than short words by herself. And that she started with for 6 months ago. But she is writing short sentences.

It was the same with the swiming, we started go swiming when she was 2,5. In the beginning we were there for maybe 3 times in 6 months and then she started to swim with her arms and after a while under water. And know she swims a shorter distance.

However I do want her to be normal and thats only what my child wants to be too. But sports she has very easy for. She were skiing for the first time for a week ago and there is no problem she just put on the skii and go.

She propebly needs more brain exersice. Thats why she gets calmer.

Your dd sounds a bit like mine. I was very surprised to find that my dd (now 4.5) is very eager to write but not so eager to read. She taught herself to write from about 2 and will take no instuction from me on the way she does it (as I have warned her teacher in recpetion). She is learning to read and can read easily - just doesn't seem all that motivated to do it.

What she loves - is word games. You probably play a game like 'hang man' in Swedish - perhaps you could google it. Dd adores this - she chooses words from a page or children's dictionary. And word searches (and puzzles generally). Perhaps your dd is similar and would enjoy word games and puzzles rather than reading. Dd will happily write and make sentences from words on pieces of paper but is not espeically interested in actually reading a book (although she loves to be read to).

I sympathise with you about KG. Although dd is enjoying reception here I generally find that she is really hungry for some serious educational input when she gets home in the afternoons. It is frustrating that this should be the case when she has just spent 6 hours in school.

It´s great to hear someone elses child who prefer writing instead of reading.

yes we play hang man here, that´s a good idea to play with my dd.

I have already have a chat with the principle of her comming school. And at least she admits that this children exists and they have started mixed classes. Classes with differents age on the students.

We do have the oppertunity to make the children start school one year earlier. However I do not think thats any solution. Since she almost reach up to the goals in class one, The class one is started at the age 7. When they are 6 they start a preschool and there it is focused on social skills and playing games. My dd has great social skills already so I Don´t think that will give her challenges.

I have been thinking to give a suggestion to the teachers that my dd can have gymnastics with the 6 year old children after the summer when the schools starts. My dd is turning 5 in december.

She have such good memory, this evening when I read a book for her. That we have´nt read for at least 4-5 month and she stills remember what will happend next in the book when I am reading.

But the problem will be that she refuse to do anything she does´nt want to do. Am afraid that, that will creat problem in school.

My dd is generally very good natured and not naughty - but she is extremely stubborn and it is indeed very hard to get her to do something is she doesn't want to. I have found though, that her teacher has A LOT more success with this than I do.

I finally managed to persuade her to read her school reading book with me today but she flatly refused to continue when she got to the last page. Yet she often asks me to staple blank pages as a book, then patiently draws pictures and writes captions (I help with spelling). She reads (well) for her teacher without complaint

The mismatch between her apparent interest in and comprehension of complex topics and her disiniterest in actually reading books for herself does strike me as quite bizarre. I sometimes think that she won't be keen to read until/unless she can do it perfectly.

Wrt school - as long as she's happy this year, then educationally, I'm more interested to see what happens next year. You probably need to see how things actually are when she starts school and take it from there. Sounds as though the teacher is basically sympathetic at least.