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Toddler with hyperlexia and speech delay, did your child seem gifted?

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MummytoJE · 14/05/2026 19:28

I was wondering if anyone had a toddler with hyperlexia (specifically type 3) and turned out to be gifted.

Our son has a pretty significant speech delay at 28 months but a very advanced comprehension. Speech therapist said not ASD signs in the assessment, and we are pretty sure he has hyperlexia.

Whilst he is not obsessed or fascinated with letters, he is very good at them. He does the following:

-Can say every letter of the alphabet randomly when shown (or in order)
-Can identify images (that he hasnt seen before) based on a letter, so say we say Q he says q then finds a picture say of a queen
-Can come up with a word based on a letter, at random eg if we say 'e is for' he will say eeh for egg or eee for elephant or p is for 'pizza' - not based on any rhyme or song or anything, just random words that he knows (he says the words that way because of suspected phonological delay and/or CAS)
-can fit a letter into any corresponding letter shape on a board
-knows letters just from a faint or non obvious outline

Has anyone had experience of this at all with their child?
Many thanks

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saraclara · 28/06/2026 21:34

I'm sorry @MummytoJE but as a career long teacher of severely autistic children, I do ask you not to use the 'superpower' 'changing the world' stuff too liberally. Yes there are some spectacular gifted autistic people in the world, but sadly, for most, their quality of life, and often their parents quality of life, is very poor. And every time someone comes out with the super power stuff, as one parent said to me "it's like twisting a knife in my guts".

Of course it's important to be positive about your own child, but please consider those who struggle hugely. I know several parents who've had breakdowns due to what they have to deal with 24/7 and their pain and worry for their child.

MummytoJE · 28/06/2026 22:03

HelloDarknessmyoldfrenemy · 28/06/2026 21:15

I think its the phrase “autism is a superpower” that myself and the PP have an issue with. This phrase is normally said by people who have no idea what it is like trying to parent an autistic child and just assume he will be like Einstein or Stephan Hawking and assume he will be profoundly gifted at maths and like Warhammer.

Whereas my son is average at maths, 2 years ahead in reading, but 2 years behind socially and emotionally. Which long term will matter a lot more than him being able to read age 3 in terms of his happiness later on.

I guess from my perspective my son would still be himself without his autism. Just able to play with toys, able to tolerate others in his space without hitting them, able to tolerate or even better enjoy a hug. I can’t see how these difficulties bring him any benefit in life. But appreciate that others have a different view on whether their child would still be the same without their autism.

I can see from your reply that you didn’t mean it like some people do when they say “autism is a superpower” and I understand more now where you are coming from. I’m just trying to explain how that phrase can come across. I hope the world can change too! Just worried it won’t change fast enough for my child.

I didn't mean intellect, I understand how it could have been read that way. Yes I hope so too!

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MummytoJE · 28/06/2026 22:17

saraclara · 28/06/2026 21:34

I'm sorry @MummytoJE but as a career long teacher of severely autistic children, I do ask you not to use the 'superpower' 'changing the world' stuff too liberally. Yes there are some spectacular gifted autistic people in the world, but sadly, for most, their quality of life, and often their parents quality of life, is very poor. And every time someone comes out with the super power stuff, as one parent said to me "it's like twisting a knife in my guts".

Of course it's important to be positive about your own child, but please consider those who struggle hugely. I know several parents who've had breakdowns due to what they have to deal with 24/7 and their pain and worry for their child.

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If they had the sufficient support, funding, resource, less stigma, more accessibility across the board I wonder if it would still be the case. I'm not saying gifted or intellect or intelligence, I'm saying the way the world could change to adapt to them. Instead of seeing them as lacking or burdensome. As I said before, I didn't say easy. I'm just going to delete because honestly these consistently negative views of children with autism is just sad.

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