Has anyone ever asked if their child is G&T on here and been told 'yes'?

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just wondering...

lol@blue blob! give him more g&t and he might add a finger or two!

Aw, sounds like they're similar! How sweet asking the bin men if they want tea!

20mo DS2 woke up yesterday morning (6.30am, still dark, cot in our room, I was getting ready for work) - first thing he did? Blew kisses.

Kisses and aeroplanes - can't be bad, eh?

I think our daughter is bright and very happy. My dh is paediatrician and has colleague who has daughter G&T. Colleague says it is extremely hard work and her daughter intensely bored at school, also she has now got a SENCO for reasons above. Sounds like hard work. Does the school tell you if your child is 'on the list' otherwise how would you know?

Guess everyones igonored me as per usual!!! ps. how do you put the expression faces on here? I just cannot work it out. Guess I'm not too clever!

Don't you just love, boys!

Mag, you're right. I guess it's simply human nature. For what it's worth, I don't think it's envy that drives it. I think it's pragmatism on the part of most parents.

Many of us have children who are deemed exceptional in certain areas. For me, it's vocabulary and expression. I have a child, not yet three, who comes up with quite amazing verbal concepts, both factual and emotional. It has been possible to have an approximation of an adult conversation with him since he was about 2.2.

But now, nearly three, he can't pedal a bike, he can't shit in the toilet. In fact, there are loads of things he can't do that I've seen other boys of his age do with ease. But the other boys that can do those things, don't talk the way my ds does.

Swings and roundabouts. Exceptionally gifted children/people are rare. They certainly don't account for 10% of the population, as the government would have us believe.

X-post! There you are, mag. I responded

I was going to post that I'd respond to you after you'd responded to me Oh bugger I have now

More seriously on the right hand side by the add your message here box:

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Sobernow, I don't think you should expect to be ridiculed. Your DD sounds amazing, btw - I wish there was some sort of mentoring system so that previously gawky, not-fitting-in, clever and misunderstood girls could say positive and encouraging things to the current ones. I'd have loved a comforting auntie figure to tell me I was all right as I was when I was younger.

Disi

I caught this website about 3 months ago when bored at work and saw the G&T thread. Thought at last, might find out about what other parents thought about the subject. Hell soon found out to my dismay that it was apparantly all bollocks etc.... I dont agree with this but hey what do I know. Took me ages to pluck up the courage to post but I did eventually and love this site. I just wouldnt, personally, post on subjects that I didnt have experience of e.g Step parents etc.

Desi (not Disi)

hunkermunker and sobernow

I'm with you not against you. What I was trying to say is that if you post on this subject, posters come in and ridicule us for what ever reason. Hunkermunker did you just step into my head there?

Sobernow, if you were referring to my post, I certainly didn't suggest that you should expect to be ridiculed.

I have a son who appears to be outside the norm for his age, but I do not wish to have him 'classified' at the tender age of two. And I rarely feel the need to discuss him. He's mine, and obviously my opinions are skewed in his favour

For what it's worth, I think that the G&T topic should remain, and I think that MN Towers should perhaps, (and I know this goes against ethos), police it a tad.

I fully agree that there should be a forum for parents with very gifted children which is safe from assault and onslaught. That you do get cynically abused is regrettable, and I for one would be happy to have a site that is free of detractors so that parents of gifted children can get the support and the answers they need.

OMG shockety shock and fuckety bloody fuck.

I have just spent some time reading those links on the page Bink sent. It is like reading about my oldest. I never would have considered him "gifted", I dont like the label, but suddenly I see why being in his company is so knackering and frustrating, his behaviour is so... so... I lack words.

please excuse my language. off to bed

I do agree. I guess I was bewildered in the early years too. But just put it down to having a DC that seemed so different to peers. It all made sense in the end.

Interesting questions as to how to identify G&T or highly able.

Both my boys are very bright. (As far as the school is concerned extremely bright, but that has more to do with the social situation and what is the 'norm' round here.)

DS2 actually gets slightly higher 'scores' in everything at school for various reasons, but IMO ds1 is the one with the real unique streak. He has a quirk originality, amazingly creative, and comes up with fantastic off-the-wall ideas. I think it's personality, because ds2 is capable of more, but is far more occupied with the idea of "fitting in" so doesn't allow his abilities free rein.

But actually dh and ds2's teacher disagree with my judgment on this.

I thought it was all a load off tosh, then I was on playgroup duty the other day and met a 3 year old who speaks, 4 languages and has handwritting and spelling better than my nearly 10 year old. Was totally amazed.

What I noticed when my DD was little was the emotional intelligence. She seemed to have an amazing empathy and wisdom beyond her years. The down side was the borderline hyper and difficulty getting her to comply the way other children seemed to. A couple of teacher hinted at ADHD and most said she was slightly below average in the classes (SATs results were great though). It was secondary school (the same one that failed me IMO) who recognised potential through CATs tests which I now know are similar to 11 plus, no coaching or practise papers done in a bog standard comp! Now shes working hard and aiming high so I'm pleased that it was picked up. The down side now is that she not into the same things as her mates e.g fashion, hanging out in with her peers and says doesnt fit in which does sadden me.

Our school has this thing about "everyone being G&T" and they invite parents to send in a slip with their children's achievements, badges, levels, etc. on it. I think they are looking for stuff they have done outside school. It's quite funny, actually.

Our school sent out the slips. I think its to make it inclusive and looking for kids that may have hidden talents outside school. If that makes sense.