Okay folks - I am aware that I may be opening a can of worms here but why does this topic piss so many people off?

[Theclosetpagan]

I mean if someone has deemed a child G+T (or is it G or T) why is it that they seem to be flamed when they post about any difficulties here?

If the label has come from outside the family and the family struggle why can't they post here saying "Help" without people leaping in to say "your child sounds normal to me"

For what it's worth I don't have a child labelled as G+T but am glad I don't given the response some posters get to this topic.

Surely it's okay for some children to be extra bright. Or is it that there is distrust of this label?

Just interested really.

I have a piano sitting in the hall at the moment- free to anyone who will collect. Lots of 'free to collect' pianos in the paper. Ours is fine, needs a tune, but nothing wrong with it.

I originally learned to play on a spinnet!!!! The keys were smaller than a piano and it didn't have the entire range of octaves.

I think the girl was who the finalist from my school was one of the few non music school competitors that reached that stage (I can't remember whether she was an overall finalist or finals for her section- prob for her section). There were a lot of very good musicians at my school though. It was dripping grade 8's.

I can't even enter my dd into modelling now, they say it wouldn't be fair on the other kids!

Can't think why Rhuby she's in a % all of her own

gess I have been looking for a piano for ages - even on wanted section here..whereabouts are you?

sorry for hijack! lol xx

Generally the peripatetic teachers won't be employed by the school - in England they'll be employed by the council and visit several schools.

Devon.... It's been sat in our front hall for ages...

front hall? We only have one hall PMSL.

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KerryMum, how come you never ever mention your ds2?

ah - you are rather far away damn it! I wonder if I can arrange something....hmmmm I will get back to you x

I just worry KM that if your ds1 DOESN'T achieve extraordinarily great things as a teenager/young adult then you will feel disappointed in him.

I have to confess that my parents always had GREAT ambitions for me, so this is a bit of a touchy subject - they were never satisfied unless I got the top mark in a school exam, distinction in a music exam. I really did feel a lot of pressure, and I think they ARE disappointed that I am 'just' a musician, albeit a busy working performing musician (which takes some doing) - it's not really what they'd imagined. They always like it if I do 'high profile' stuff - broadcasts, recordings etc, but the run of the mill stuff they don't really rate. I'd love to feel that they were just happy that I was settled, had 3 great children, a lovely (most of the time) dh, a nice house, and enough work to keep me in chinese takeaways happy. Music wasn't the ONLY option I had - I had 4 offers for medicine, but turned them down in favour of music, when I realised on filling in the UCAS return form that I didn't actually want to be a doctor.

Going back a few posts re. parents having to travel. I know one particular child I might call G&T, a ballet dancer. He just missed the entrance exam for the Royal Ballet school (had only been doing ballet for a term) but they invited him to their Saturday lessons so he can develop and apply at age 14 or whenever the next opening is. And apparently he is doing stupendously well. His poor mother, though, has to drive from Norfolk to west London and back again every Saturday!

If ds ever turns out to have any major talents I do hope it's something that can be accommodated closer to home.

KM - I can totally see that, and I really really hesitate to say anything, because you know your son best, it's just the way it comes across on MN - it's like the G&T business is the MOST important aspect of your ds1. But I@m not criticising at all. Just trying to debate and help!

Also, as someone who was always chronically busy as a child/teenager, to the detriment of my A Levels in some ways, one of the most important lessons you can teach a child with talent is to say 'no' and to pick and choose - so if he says he'd like to play an instrument, maybe tell him to wait 6 months and then see if he still does, and actually ration what he does. It's a really important life lesson, and one I have only just learnt - in music it is very hard, as in some ways you have to take on everything you can. But I have now learnt that if I'm asked to do a concert and I look in the diary and see that that week I already have 3 or 4 concerts, then the correct answer is no, unless I REALLY want to do it.

Ah, but you don't KM, I looked up your old posts and about the only things you say about your ds2, are/ he screams a lot/ he miss behaves/ you feel guilty for not having given him the same attention and time that you give ds1. I have two children, I am not saying that they always have equal attention, but I try my bloody hardest to give them equal amounts of my time, money and attention.

Ah, but you don't KM, I looked up your old posts and about the only things you say about your ds2, are/ he screams a lot/ he miss behaves/ you feel guilty for not having given him the same attention and time that you give ds1. I have two children, I am not saying that they always have equal attention, but I try my bloody hardest to give them equal amounts of my time, money and attention.

what happened I posted twice.

You OK, Kerry?

Jesus Fuck lojo, do you want to know when she last took a shite?

Kerry, I'll keep an eye out for a piano up this end.