Artistically G&T but possible Aspergers

[Ikanon]

DD5 is drawing at Y6 level in Reception (head and Y2 art teacher say) but struggles with impulse control and just shrieks when things don't go her way. Given it would be a ludicrous wait even if Aspergers was a diagnosis (my personal belief is a diagnosis opens doors to access funded SEN support but her reading, writing and maths is Y2 level so no school interest I would imagine in supporting a diagnosis) what things can I read/access without a diagnosis? She can sit and draw for hours so can focus but her ability to control herself when you ask her to do something she doesn't want or when someone takes something of hers is unbearable. Please help!

That's the nature of asd though isn't it, my ds is the same he excels at his interests but very difficult to get him to focus on other things. He also hasn't yet got an official diagnosis, it's still ongoing, he's only in reception though.
Can you speak to the school senco for support /advice.? It is a very long process to diagnose any kind of asd I believe, ds has been scrutinised since he was 2.

Seems silly but I hadn't thought of that.

My ds is similar, has been tested for ASD at 2 but it was inconclusive, so he doesn't have diagnosis. But I am quite sure he is on spectrum. He can focus on his interest for hours, but not if he isn't.
He is in yr5 now and doing ok though, as in he doesn't have any negative attitude at school. He is very emotional and intense at home, but getting on well at school, no teacher ever mentioned he maybe on the spectrum and has problem, except that he can be away with fairies sometimes. (But then, he disguise himself well at school and express all the stress at home, so it's kind of hard as a parent.)

Her preschool teacher and I discussed it but school don't see the problem with her behaviour as there are a number of challenging children and hers is by no means the worst and she achieves IYSWIM.

If her preschool teacher doesn't see any problem, she must be on really borderline if she is on spectrum. My ds's preschool manager was very sure about him having asd and referred us to lots of intervention for social development, while giving him 1-1 sessions for academic stuff.
School was totally different, he was not the one to distract others, so it was thought to be more personal goal to achieve, like concentrate and do the work.
If you really think she would benefit from diagnosis, you should start the process, rather than waiting for school to do it, if school is reluctant.
We are now happy about him not get diagnosis since he doesn't have any difficulty at school, but we will, if he starts to show any signs of struggle.

It was preschool who suggested she was on the spectrum but Reception teachers have no interest as they're fighting bigger battles. I think the SENCO will be more interested.

My DS is now year 3 and has a diagnosis of HF ASD. We've been talking to teachers since he started reception, but school only became interested when they realised that he was unlikely to cope well with the expectations of KS2. The process took about 8 months from referral to diagnosis.

It's worth having a talk to the SENCO, but at 4/5 years old there may not be enough social differences to observe to give a diagnosis.

See if you can self refer to your local speech & language service or find a drop in session. SALTs tend to have better tests for ASD than other professionals. It was a SALT who supported us to get a diagnosis when our school told us it wasn’t likely. It was me who applied for the EHCP when school said he was too able to qualify for help. In my experience you should trust your gut as you know your child across all settings and schools just don’t have the time or skills to do the necessary observations. You’ll have to initiate everything and build a team of supportive professionals. Good luck