Will My LOs have trouble at school??

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My 3 and 4 year old have been looked after at home with me since they were born. I haven't had much information on what they should and shouldn't be doing in terms of development ... we just do average activities and enjoy what we do together

They both could read by their 3rd birthday and can do pages of sums (+-) lone working. They can tell the time and ask for topics to learn about (anatomy,history,astrology) etc . I thought this was fairly average - but people keep telling me this is too much and I'm doing a bad thing letting them know these things already .As when they get to school ,they will be bored and their learning will go backwards . The teachers will be annoyed and I should be concerned ?

My little girl starts school in September and now I'm really worried - does what they say really happen? What should I do ? Have I really done a bad thing ?

What are your experiences ?

Thank you for your advice

( Please excuse my bad English )

No don't worry. My dd started reading by 3. Thing is with reception it's just as much learning about routine, social skills etc & the teacher will lean more towards text interpretation and spelling etc.
It's more the other parents you'll have trouble with tbh "how did you get her to do that??" "I just let my child have fun" etc etc I just have to laugh, she's got a mind of her own I've never made her do anything

It sounds like you've been doing a great job nurturing their minds. School, at the beginning, will be about the development of social skills in a completely new environment. They may already know how to read and count, but they will be encouraged to see texts and numbers in way that keeps them learning.

How does learning go backwards?
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Social skills, sharing, takin in turns, dressing self, going to toilet unaided, queuing up, not interrupting teacher, using cutlery, doing own coat buttons, putting own shoes on and all that shebang are the key things at start of reception

I too chose to teach my dd before she started school. However, I do think it is important to help them get a good, all round balance of skills. For social skills, I took her to play groups and she went to a Montessori nursery for a few mornings each week. Going to parks or out into the countryside is important for building physical skills. Also they just need time to relax and daydream. You may be doing this already, but imo , encouraging them to develop these abilities is just as important as teaching them reading or maths.

We did have problems with her being so far ahead in primary and ended up home educating. However, reading other threads, it really depends on what school you get. Some cater much better than others.
Dd had now settled well into an excellent secondary which caters well for her being advanced. So I think, deal with the problems if and when they arise.

Thank you for your advice
I'm really greatful for it - I can't really talk about this topic.

(My LOs are very sociable and independent. We spend most of our time outdoors, trying new things or being with friends . They also do music and swimming classes. But they also love learning too... )

If only parenting cams with a book 😂

I wouldn't worry too much tbh. My experience went like this ds went to school having only ever been home with me. Teacher gave me a disapproving look and said that he'd probably struggle having never been away from me or having had any outside of home input.
On the first day he ran in without a backward glance when a few were in tears. On the third day the teacher asked for a chat and asked me why I hadn't made them aware of his abilities as they had never had a child like him. I explained I had no idea what was unusual, I'd just spent a lot of time talking and playing with him and he picked stuff up. She asked if she could refer him to an ed psych as she felt he was possibly 5 plus years ahead and they would need advice on how to accommodate him. Ds was was subsequently described as very gifted with an IQ in the to 0.001% of the population.
He had a lovely time in school, particularly in primary where he had a great time with friends and pursued his interests. That's not to say that he was always challenged and he wasn't sometimes bored but the negatives were outweighed tenfold by what he did get from school.

don't worry at all - doesn't sound like they are that far ahead really. If they're ok socially then they will be fine

Pages of sums?

They may be slightly ahead with some things but will probably struggle with others, totally normal. Certainly no such thing as going backwards re learning!

I could read before I started school at (just turned) 3. I was far ahead in maths too and was reading Chaucer (just a MN joke there) Winnie the Pooh and had a hardback copy that I loved. I was bored witless and most put out when the teacher wouldn't let me read the primary 3 books so I brought in my own.

However this was in the 70s so I was told to sit in the library corner with maths books and left to it. I was obviously a lot younger and smaller than my classmates and really felt like the baby of the class. By secondary school I had just taken my foot off the pedal to be 'normal' and blend in. Why my parents didn't boot my backside I will never know!

Ds is a smart cookie though and the teachers have always kept him engaged. He loves school and has done really well (mostly) so far.

It shouldn't be a problem. Children star with different abilities. You children will be ahead in some respects but behind in others do they will still be challenged. Young children don't easily get bored anyway.

It will be fine. Ds found phonics fascinating as he couldn't remember learning to read (although when he did he had sounded out phonemes). He said it was really interesting watching how children learnt to read. Generally the teachers have been happy to let him do his own thing. It helped that he had been in the nursery so they had a record of his progression. He just read his own books when the other dc were reading.

By end of yr2 quite a few peers are catching up and although he is tackling challenging texts at home he can still participate in class.

I know that some other schools have insisted on reading every book at every level but he has been lucky.