I taught my children to read at home when they were 5. I didn't know about phonics, so i didn't show them it. I'd learned with the old Janet and John series, so that's what i used after teachign them the alphabet.
To teach the alphabet, we did it first as A, Bee, Cee, Dee... mainly because I had a "Learn your ABC's with Winnie the Pooh" American DVD. Then I wrote out the letters as a,b,c,d and taught them aa, bi, Ki, di etc
Then I did cut out cards of each of the letters in capitals and lower case and asked DS to match them so that he could learn that D and d are the same thing.
After that we started straight into the books which are based around memorising the 100 most used words and then sounding out the rest. It just fell easily into place. DS1 learned to read in two months from a standing start to a point that most children reach at the end of year 1. A month or so later, and I think he'd have been a level 2a at school (I learned about the levels and what they entailed a couple of years later).
Basically I didn't make a big song and dance about phonics and it worked for my two. I think if I had, they'd have been quickly bored and disengaged because they weren't making enough progress to see the point of it.
I can see phonics works for many, and its clearly the favoured method applied in schools these days but I don't think its a panacea for all children.