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DS is bored (yr 3)

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HippyHippopotamus · 23/09/2015 11:32

Hi, my DS is a summer born. He got level 4s across the three subjects in his KS1 SATS last June (so whilst he was six yrs old).
He is now in yr 3, bored and frustrated. He gets picked on by his classmates for being 'different'. He thinks his teachers (he's unfortunately got 3 part time teachers this year) aren't very clever because they keep getting things wrong. I've been trying to discourage him with these thoughts but their behaviour doesn't help! For example, there were two mistakes in the maths questions (a total of 7 so only 5 were right!) he was set for homework. He wrote the correct question and the answer followed by "yours makes no sense". My husband and I checked it and he was right but I suspect he'll get into trouble for being cheeky.
School haven't mentioned g&t.

How can I help him? He's an avid reader and already has free access to (appropriate) fiction and non-fiction at home.

He used to be so enthusiastic about school but I feel they're losing him already this year. (His teacher for yr2 was great and seemed to "get him")

Thanks in advance for any wise words!

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QueenVictoria11 · 23/09/2015 13:21

I don't think schools are required to have a gifted and talented policy any longer so only some actually bother to provide suitable learning experiences.

Other than what you already do, I guess you could try speaking to his teacher but not sure that this will make much difference unless you persist relentlessly.

Do school offer lots in other areas so he can be challenged - clubs for example like chess or computer club.

I really don't have an answer other than I understand your and your DS's frustration.

var123 · 23/09/2015 13:27

Askj the school ffice to give you a copy of the G&T policy. If they don't have one, seriously consider changing school, if you possibly can.

I don't think you'll find a good school that will really challenge your child, but you should be able to find one where the Y3 teacher knows the answers to the children's homework. (Before you switch though, have a good look at who is teaching the rest of KS2 too - no point finding a good Y3 teacher but getting stuck with an appalling Y4 one)

BathshebaDarkstone · 23/09/2015 13:28

Oh I'm sorry. This could so easily be DD. She's also year 3 but just turned 8. I feel so lucky that she's being challenged and enjoys school. Also her class are really inclusive and treat her just like everyone else. It seems that your DS drew the short straw. Please talk to his teacher and discuss how you can both help him to achieve his potential.

Kate1l1 · 23/09/2015 13:34

Can you change schools where there are classes for kids who are ahead?

HippyHippopotamus · 23/09/2015 21:30

Thank you for all the comments.

Changing schools really not feasible for a variety of reasons.

I didn't think to ask if the school has a g&t policy so that's exactly what I'll be asking in the morning.

Unfortunately the only clubs are sports ones (he does these already, it helps him burn off some frustrations before I collect him!) He has just started piano lessons at school so hoping this helps him have a challenge.

To clarify, it was two of the questions that were written wrongly. There was no answer to their questions so my son rewrote the questions!

Your understanding is appreciated too, thank you. I just want him to be the best he can be but the most important thing is that he's happy.

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LittleMissGreen · 24/09/2015 09:00

The school assessing him at level 4 across the board in year 2 is highly unusual - many schools will only assess to level 3. Whether they have physically marked him on a register as being G&T or not they are obviously teaching him at a level that should stretch him (else he wouldn't have achieved level 4). The 'problem' I would think is not so much the school as having 3 teachers this year, (or the change to the new curriculum). Have the teachers worked together before or is it a standard arrangement for year 3?

PettsWoodParadise · 25/09/2015 22:13

This was exactly our DD at end of year 2, start of year 3. It was a learning curve not to correct teacher in front of class! Lots of ineffective meetings later we bailed out and chose a selective independent. We didn't have time to mess about and experiment. Main challenge was that at start of year 3, her weakest subject was two years ahead of the next most able child. Quite a leap and the school couldn't cope. They suggested exploring moving her up but that had a host of problems and wasn't clear of all the long term implications. This wasn't something taken lightly the money was a challenge and lodgers in our house have been a feature for many years!

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