G and T clubs

[shena1066]

hello mums

Does anyone know if there are any G and T support groups/clubs in Nottingham for children in the early years? Or parent support groups for looking after G and T children, especially those with asynchronous development?

Many thanks

asynchronisity sucks.. (is that a word?)

I believe that nacg do meet ups and conferences (or whatever their new name is, potential plus?) but have never been.

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heehee it really does suck!

Unfortunately Potential Plus don't do meet ups in Nottingham, it's a shame would have been useful.

We're already running into the classic problems even at preschool and I can't imagine things will get easier as she gets older within the school system.

By asynchronous development, do you mean maturity-wise he's his chronological age but interests-wise and ability-wise he is much more advanced than his peers?

If yes, then IME, it does get better the older they get, mainly because your Dc either learn to do the more grown up stuff independently and keep their interests private (e.g. watch documentaries on tv, read more advanced books or join a chess club) but spend time with children their own age playing games that they all enjoy e.g. football or tag.

I've got 2 very able boys. DS1 does find it a little difficult to relate to children his own age sometimes, but its getting better each year. Ds2 has almost no problems at all, except that he really does not have enough patience with behaviour that is notably immature relative to the rest of the class.

Yes that's right, with her asynchronous development she acts like a 4 year old but is certainly advanced compared to peers with interests and abilities. At the moment we're taking her on day trips to castles, museums etc and doing at home study projects both practical and academic. She will be brainy one minute then have a melt down and stamp her feet because she didn't lead the way into the kitchen the next. We're using time out and calm down time where she goes to her room and comes out when she is calmer and says sorry.

She does find it difficult to relate to children her own age and this has been picked up on at pre school but she has told me that she wants to play on her own and sit at the drawing/writing table so I'm happy that she is making this choice herself and we support her as best we can. She gets on with other kids but doesn't follow them around during play time and is happy to do her own thing. For some reason pre school asst thinks this is negative but I have no concerns if she's happy.

It sounds like your boys have a nice balance, being able to do interests independently in private and have a social life too, I expect DD will do this more as she gets older with our support.

Its getting easier but it wasn't always easy. There have been times that I've really felt for Ds1 in not having friends to share his interests with.

Maybe the grass is always greener, but if we had sent him to a primary school with 2 form entry, or even better still 3 form entry then his chances of finding a friend who is more like him would have been much greater. Similarly, if we'd decided to put him forward for grammar schools, instead of a really good comprehensive, then he'd have had a better chance of finding someone to be friends with who shares his more academic interests.

Having lots of friends is ideal, and Ds2 seems to have worked out that he can have different friends for different interests, but all Ds1 really needed was just one other person to whom he could talk about human geography or science or literature.

Maybe that's my advice: look for schools where the odds are good.

Why don't you ask the nursery teacher to vocalise why she thinks being content in one's own company is not ok. Maybe she has some child development knowledge that would help you understand whether you should be concerned or not.

There is a Potential Plus Facebook group which has a map of people's locations all over the country, so you might be able to use that to help you find some kindred children. We have done this, a bit, and it does help.

Just had a quick look at the facebook page, it's got lots of links to some interesting blogs. Many thanks for this suggestion.