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Any tips to help a geeky 12yo girl learn social skills?

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AChickenCalledKorma · 16/12/2014 22:16

DD1 is in year 8, absolutely flying academically and really struggling socially. "No-one" wants to talk about things she's interested in. The list of things she's not interested in includes boys, fashion, music etc. The list of things she is interested in is harder to define, but would possibly include rock climbing, whatever book she's reading at the moment and whatever interesting scientific fact she's just come across.

She says she struggles in a noisy group when the conversation is bouncing around between different subjects.

When she came home today she was buzzing because she got a GCSE A* equivalent mark in her science test (and had told everyone at school, which might not exactly have helped her social standing Hmm). But later on she came home grumpy from her youth group, which was a Christmas party where she got a rubbish secret santa present. This is a typical range of emotions for a day in her life!

She reminds me a lot of DH, who hates parties, doesn't do small talk, is a typical engineer, with mildly autistic traits that have never been given any kind of diagnosis. I feel there are probably parents on this board with similar children and would love any tips about coping strategies for geeky teenagers, because it's hard to see her sad when she's doing so well at so many things!

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Box5883284322679964228 · 30/03/2015 07:23

Something more outdoorsy like scouts might be better. Our local scouts involves fire building, night walks, structured activities, interesting cooking events and various camping adventures. Our local youth group on the other hand seems to be full of slightly bored girls hanging out bring a bit mean and getting off with the boys.

Brainnotworking · 30/03/2015 07:45

Let her be... My own DD was a lot like yours at 12, but now she's 17 she's a (nightmare!) beautiful young woman with a lot of confidence... I'm not sure us parents did anything to contribute to that - just gave her confidence and a secure family home (and yes, I'm geeky about music and her mum was geeky about cooking - but aren't the Geeks going to inherit the world? Could be the meek or the Greeks?) - Good luck!!

Brainnotworking · 30/03/2015 07:49

Oh - and before I get flamed - she's had to wear braces for the last 5 years, she has spectacles (so she's a classic geek) - but she's the most sensational young woman I've ever met... Her boyfriend is lovely (though he knows I have a shotgun, a shovel and an alibi....)!!

ragged · 30/03/2015 21:47

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Brainnotworking · 31/03/2015 07:40

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